Havesomethingtosay

Is that really so bad????

This was posted on another thread and hit me like a punch to the gut.

Early on (and this was 26 years ago), we had sex all the time together, but probably only averaged 2-3X's/wk as we did not live together. When we first were living together I swear we did it 3-5X's/wk, and dwindled prior to kids to 2-3X's/wk. Kids came and of course it changed, but never more then 2-3 wks off over 26 years.

No I'm not thrilled, but very interesting to read someone saying 2-3/wk is not sexual. Really??????

northland

Some people screw like rabbits, multiple times per day, that could be, 20x per week!

Others, once a week is about right.

Me, at my "older" age.. 2-3x per week is more than enough and my partner is on the same page.

Sex frequency is not one of those "written in stone" types of things.

frustr8dhubby

I would be ecstatic with 2-3x/wk.

unbelievable

2-3x per month would seem like a dream come true.

Runs like Dog

That would be the Sex Olympics.

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Jellybeans

It's always interesting to me to read how for some people 2-3x a week is just right or perfect and for others, not nearly enough. My ex always said 2-3x was never enough. Idk after 8 yeasr together I thought that amount was fine considering how long we'd been together but still made an effort to meet him halfway. He would actually start fights with me over it, how it needed to be more more more all the time or else he was going to find someone else to fvck. Sigh.

PAPS18

We are at 1x a week at most, so if I upped that to 2x a week, how could I complain. However, my wife's way of thinking is that men (me) are never happy. SO, if we are having sex 2x a week, chances are I would want it 3x and so forth. At this point in time, after 20 years of at most 1-2x a week even when newlywed with no kids, for me to get to 2x a week consistently-where I could just relax and enjoy because I knew odds were I would have another opportunity in 3-4 days, I think I would be VERY happy and content-and I would treat her even better than I do now getting what I get. There is NO DOUBT, and my wife knows this very well, my mood is MUCH improved after sex. Her problem is that sex is just not a priority for her-other things come first, kids, her job, and then the end results of kids/job make her stressed and tired, which again leads to no sex.

CherryLola

My partner and I seem to have very high sex drives on the whole. We have sex on average 3 times a day! Over Saturday and Sunday we had sex 9 times. I doubt we will always have sex this much though..my ex and I had a lot of sex too, but on average it was probably once every other day or something like that (we were togtehr 5 years and maintained this regularity throughout). But I guess everyone is different, and also sometimes the person you are with and the couple you are together, may change your view and desire...I am happy to have sex 3 times a day. Soemtimes I really really really want it that much, but there are days too where I would happily go without...mainly due to work stress exhausting me!

Shaggy

2-3x/wk , this I would kill for.
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iGuy

2-3x/ MONTH, this I would commit genocide for!

strugglinghusband

Would be better than the lottery!!

Lon

2-3x/wk, my ideal too (once the jackrabbit phase is over and it settles into LTR mode that is)

jaquen

We flux between 2-3 times a week on the low end, and 4-5 times a week on the high. Occasionally we'll hit a super high streak, like our last anniversary where we had sex 9 times in less than two days.

I tell you this much, we're in our early 30's and even a "low" week for us seems to be more than a lot of the married couples we know in real life.

The only person I've ever met who considered us having sex "just 3 times a week?" as an issue was one of my mid 20's friends. When I told him that was a lot more than a lot of people have, he noted that his mom and dad, parents to I believe seven children, still have sex every single day. From his perspective, and going by the way he grew up, 3 times a week seemed low. He was the only person who's ever noted that in my life.

saint_kevin

For me, once a week is just the right dose and I won't want to ask for more. My partner is on the same pace so we are fine. Our top record is 8 times a day and that was the younger time.

keeper63

It's like that scene in "Annie Hall" where Woody Allen says "We hardly ever have sex, only 2 or 3 times a week", while Diane Keaton says "We have sex constantly, sometimes as much as 2 or 3 times a week!"

I think that sums it up for many couples.