kag123

I am just curious what is the typical desire for a man (30's) like?

When I say "desire", I am talking the threshold in which you become grouchy and the lack of sex takes over your every waking thought.

I read on here that some men 30+ still have a strong desire to have sex every day or even multiple times a day. That seems like a lot to me! I would expect that from an 18 year old boy but thought that mens sex drives naturally decreased as they got older.

I know my husband could have sex every day if I wanted him to, but more as a take-it-or-leave-it thing. I would say that his honest threshold of desire is maybe once every 2-3 weeks. Seriously. I usually break the ice well before we get to that point but there have been times when life has gotten in the way, I've been sick, or whatever and I let time slip by and I notice he doesnt really seem to bring it up or say anything until 2-3 weeks have passed. He used to not be able to go that long when younger (we've been together 8 years) but life has changed a lot since those days too, we've got high stress jobs and lives, always on the go, two young kids, not a lot of sleep happening, not a lot of spontaneity available either.

So anyway, just curious. It baffles me that an older man could still have such a high drive.

jaquen

I am in my early 30's, have a high drive, but also have an incredible amount of control over my sexuality. I've been able to be find contentment in extremes, from long time celibacy, to multiple times a day.

But I have no desire to be celibate again, nor any reason I would be. Sex is fine with me about 3-4 times a week, and some weeks if I'm especially horny, I'll release on my own an additional 8 or 9 times. It varies.

But I also don't consider a man in his 30's to be an "older man". Your tone, and the bewilderment in your post, would seem more fitting if you were shocked that posters in their late 50's and up were super horny.

Minncouple

I need sex 3-4 times a week to be happy.

For me, I dont need alot from my wife. Be my friend, be nice and have sex with me. In return, I will try and be all she needs.

If after like 4/5 days of no sex, I will shut her out. I simply can not play the role of a little puppy dog begging. I have stopped all advances towards her about a year ago, simply the rejection is too much for me anymore. Thus, resentment has built to a dangerous level.

Aristotle

Every single day, especially before bed.

I would love to be woke up to sex or oral, without having to orgasm. Just start off the day feeling my wife. Would that be twice a day or once and a half?

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frustr8dhubby

After about 3 to 4 days I start to get a little "grumpy". After a week it gets somewhat bad. Oh and I am 42..

Accipiter777

every 2 to 3 days..... 43 I am.

Browncoat

I'm nearly 40, and I still would love at least once a day or even more.

Realistically I'm OK with 2-3x/week but prefer 3-5x/week. These days I let my LD wife more or less set the pace that she's comfortable with.

OP you may want to consider talking things over with a sex therapist given the disparity in your sex drives. Our ST has helped my wife be more open to sex more often... and she doesn't feel forced or compelled to do it anymore (which has been great for us both).

Like I said the changes have been large in just a couple of months. Just food for thought...

WorkingOnMe

I'm 41. If she's being affectionate for a day or 2 after sex then I'm fine up to about 3 days. Then I start getting moody. If the sex is bad and she ignores me after then I'm in a bad mood within 24 hours, feeling denied. But we tend to go weeks without. If we did it on a regular basis I probably wouldn't crave it so much.

that_girl

I think my husband would say this.

And the 30s isn't old. I'm 36 and want it every day...and I'm a woman.

Be happy your husband thinks you're so awesome! Although, you say he only wants it every 2-3 weeks...and then complain he has too high a libido?

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Good Dog

I'm in my 30s and I want it anywhere from 3-5 times a week. My wife wants it about 4-5 times a week, so we average out at about 4, though sometimes more. On those occasions when someone starts to complain that it's been too long, usually it's her and only when I've had some work project or something keeping me out late.

jaquen

You little horny devil you!

DvlsAdvc8

I'm 34 and I generally shoot for 3-5 times a week... plus maybe 1-2 times alone depending on convenience, moods etc. I'm especially a fan of morning and early afternoon sex.

Browncoat

LOL yeah let's not get started on the topic of how many times per week I fly solo. I know my wife would be one tired woman if she tried to keep up.

Goldmember357

I like sex allot cause i love my wife also when i was younger i was not a player so when i was younger i did not get sex allot like some did. I sometimes feel like i didnt get enough sex when testosterone is the highest which is when you are younger.