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Tell her to stop calling you Edward! Tell her you don't like it!
Oh it's a slip of the tongue thing, in the heat of the moment literally. She's actually not done that particular one a lot anymore, but has a history of using the wrong name with me. She's not trying to be mean, but that doesn't help my ego. I know when she's done it because she'll deny deny deny until finally admitting (this is all after, not during bedroom time) that she did it and says sorry and all that. But after her EA and a lot of other harsh comments from her, I already feel like the shlubby provider guy whose wife prefers the men who populate her fantasies. This kind of thing would be pretty trivial in another context, but in our marriage it's just another punch in the gut. All that being said, she is trying to make things up to me and I've got to get past all this stuff at some point (thus my visits here to this site).
That would not work for me. You should tell her to stop it. That is wrong wrong wrong on so many levels.
Compared to some of what she said to me at our lowest time about 18 months ago, this unintentional stuff is the least of my worries. But yeah I'm not feeling like much of a husband or a man these days.
And then she'll go and say stuff like, "What happened to my husband, the go-getter who was always ready to take on the world?" Umm, dear, you pretty much ran that guy over, backed the car over him again, called him a p---y and drove off.
Well that get from underneath the car and tell her "Stop calling me 'Edward." I am not ok with that at all."
Or start shouting out one of her hot friend's name (kidding).
You need to stand up for yourself.
And I just hi-jacked my own thread
Oh yeah no I appreciate the advice, and sorry for taking part in jacking your thread. I had my own thread but I stupidly deleted it after I thought someone on another site (similar thread) had recognized me. I release your thread back into the wild for more discussion on women calling out men's names in bed.
I like it. If she says my name each time I drive insider her, the faster I go the faster she says it... very intense.
We've done it, I liked it, but I also like to keep my bedroom talk fresh. If I heard the same thing each day, or oh goooood over and over for 10 years, it would get old. I like the variety.
I have ran out of things to say myself these days, I sound like a broken record.
If it is just my name alone, I don't like it. I find it distracting. I had an ex-gf who used to say my name as part of a dirty sentence or phrase. That could be fun.
No I really don't care for her calling my name, though I do get excited when we are going at it and she starts throwing expletives at me such as "Fvck me NOW!!!. Fvck me hard you MOTHERFVCKER!!!"
Question for the men: Do you like your name to be said/called out during sex? Posted via Mobile Device
My "friend" calls my name out every time we're together, not loud just kind of a whisper, the first time was a bit weird, new to me, but I got used to it. It's sexy when it's done properly and sensually. I'm more like "don't freakin' move"...lol
I wonder how many guys out there are called 'Hurry up' or 'Is it in yet'..??? :-)
To be honest I thought the 'Is it in yet' question was a cliche, that women never said that or felt that way... until I came here.
I can tell you this though, any guy who had that happen to him... isn't going to say jack about it. Not interested in bragging here, just glad to say I never had this happen to me.
The 'hurry up' part I've got many many times... verbally but mostly from body language. It's kind of a curse if the guy always takes way longer than the woman.
As much as I hear/read that women want men to last longer, there's clearly a point at which it becomes too much... at least in my limited experience. The 'hurry up' body language really doesn't help either... in fact it makes things take even longer (or often times just makes me want to give up trying).