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I have lurked for a while, but have a question that is not too personal I feel comfortable asking. I have never used lube and have wondered if it makes a difference, since I often have PE with my wife.
In my relationship..yes Lube is very important.
We use it alot.I mean sometimes im wet enough but my hubby seems to like to glide..lol..so he uses it alot. Its a nice feeling.
Also,We play around anal as well and for that its a MUST!!!!
You've never used your spit, or her spit after oral? That is lube.
Her juices is lube. If she gets super wet, do you like it more? There is no way she is the same each time.
With anal, yes, lube is a must and it does make a difference. With vaginal intercourse, after the first 20 minutes, no matter how wet she was, my wife iwll dry up. Neither of us are done and I do not want to tear her up, I will spit or use over the counter lube and apply it to her and my penis. It actually takes away a lot of friction, which sucks, but it makes the session last another 20 to 30 minutes. Sometimes I will have to relube every 10 minutes to keep things going smooth.
To be honest, I like the feeling as it drys up. It pulls the skin but doesn't rip me (rips her), and it feels extra tight. However, if I want to be able to play with my wife any time in the next week, I keep it lubed up. It's more for her, as I think my member likes it "rough".
We dont use lube at all! I hate the taste and so does he. I like to clean up after and he like to change things up so that we dont get into a boring routine...
I am afraid my wife might feel slighted or lacking as a woman if I suggest trying lube.
I can't see why. I LOVE it.
Why not pick up one say like the KY(hers and mine) that says when its mixed it makes it really warm.Tell her you got it cause you were curious how the warm thing felt and go from there. Opens the door with no possible hurt feelings then if she likes it she will be more open to it and possibly trying another kind as well.
We have a LOT of sex, and we almost always use lube -- not because I'm not wet, but just because it's easier and faster. It doesn't offend me at all. You might give it a try, see what you think.
As far as taste and texture, there are a million different kinds -- don't be afraid to visit your local erotica store and try some samples, many of them come in little sample sizes for a dollar.
We have a LOT of sex, and we almost always use lube -- not because I'm not wet, but just because it's easier and faster. It doesn't offend me at all. You might give it a try, see what you think.
As far as taste and texture, there are a million different kinds -- don't be afraid to visit your local erotica store and try some samples, many of them come in little sample sizes for a dollar.
I did that as well... I bought expensive ones that they claim you cant taste. My husband couldnt but I could and I could never get past the taste of empty tasting jelly in my mouth. YUCK! So my husband claims I have a million dollar tongue like ice cream tasters and such. Everytime we go out to eat we make it a challenge for me to guess what is in it and then go home and remake it later on.
No spit and she doesn't usually get wet before I finish. If I give her oral, she is done.
so she is generous in the bedroom.
I think if you have PE as bad as you indicate you should learn how to give her mind blowing orgasms with your hand,tounge,toy.
because if they arn't sexually satisifyed by their husband they see sex as a chore and it will degrade to the point that they might lose all intrest with sex with you.
learn how to give her an orgasm. you can ask but alot of women feel as thought you should know and are put off by having to tell you. google women having an orgasm and watch some videos of women masterbating you might be surprised.
their are informational videos that are done tastfully I'm not refering tp fake porn type of videos.
If she not getting wet before your done then most likely shes not even aroused properly and isn't having any orgasms.
She can have an "orgasm" before she gets wet. This satisfies her and she is done. In our 12 years together, we have only had a handfull of times she was really aroused. I will admit that I don't know how to arouse her consistently. It is hard for me to get the opportunity since we are so busy and she is often tired and would rather sleep.
I don't have a problem with my natural lubrication very often, but if I did, I'd use lube. I don't like vaginal tears and it would make me NOT want sex if I tore every time I had sex. My ex husband was very selfish about not wanting to use lube, and I tore a few times, not a lot of fun.
Some lube is a lot of fun, some I found to be irritating and sticky (not in a good, natural way, like lollipop sticky) and it's gross.
She can have an "orgasm" before she gets wet. This satisfies her and she is done. In our 12 years together, we have only had a handfull of times she was really aroused. I will admit that I don't know how to arouse her consistently. It is hard for me to get the opportunity since we are so busy and she is often tired and would rather sleep.
sorry to say I think she is disapointed in sex with you so she advoids it.
most women I've give orgasm too get extreamlly wet and their pu$$ies contract and their is no mistaking it.
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Is lube really that important? 
