05-25-2012, 03:36 PM
Join Date: May 2012
| | Re: Am I wrong?
Originally Posted by EleGirl
Your husband has become a burden on you.
You need to set some boundaries.
Either he do the things he needs to do or you will divorce him. The way he is right now, nothing short of losing his meal ticket will get him to wake up and re-join life.
He needs to go to the VA, get diagnosed and get the treatment he needs. He needs to either go to school and get financial aid or get a job. He needs to help out 50% at home and with you child.
If he’s playing video games all the time… get rid of the video games and game system. Hock it. You could use the money.
You are part of the problem here. You are enabling your husband by putting up with his bad behavior and supporting him financially. If he did not have you to use as his sugar mamma, he’s have to get a job and function in life.
As for withholding sex? In this situation I see nothing wrong with withholding sex until he comes to his senses. On top of all this you are still healing from your child birth. Take better care of yourself physically and emotionally.
I can't really get rid of his laptop. But the other games he plays are stuff I would use if I actually had the time. One thing we had in common is that we both are gamers. I live out in the middle of no where near all his relatives. The apartment is in both our names and I am not going to leave my daughter homeless when I've actually got an affordable place now ($525 a month for a 3 bedroom no government assistance crazy). I can't shut off the electric since obviously that would affect me and my daughter. I'm not rushing for divorce because I know deep down inside he's a good guy. I just can't figure out how to get the old him to come back out.
Trust me, I think about it all the time, like if I forced him to be on his own, he'd realize he needs to do something, but I can't kick him out an apartment that is also technically his. I've gone to his (female) friends house to get some help with the baby so I can get school work done since she doesn't mind holding her and feeding her etc, but I hate the fact that he still winds up getting even more of a break. Next month I'm going to visit my family for a week and they are going to help me with the baby so I can have somewhat of a break. But again, I don't think I should have to leave the place I pay for and give him the pleasure of having the house to himself with no responsibilities.