SepticChange

Or does it just happen in the heat of the moment?

johnnycomelately

Hope would be a better word than plan.

No, we never plan and we never 'ask'. I ask with a massage.

DanF

We plan and also respond to the heat of the moment. We also seduce each other, tease and get one another so worked up that one of us is about to burst.

FirstYearDown

Sometimes during the day, my husband will tell me he wants to make love when he comes home. I don't know if that counts as planning.

SunnyT

Hmmmm.... we almost always have sex, so we would more likely plan on not having it sometimes. However, we each or both go out of our way once in awhile to plan something awesome, like a night at a hotel, or candlelight and oils on the frontroom floor.... we plan special sex.

SepticChange

I personally prefer spontaneous sex. There has been only one time we "planned" and he announced that he wanted to have sex one more time before I left for basic.

nader

I would like to plan for it more. I would like for it to be a sure thing, and not spending the day hoping against hope and then being at the mercy of whatever my wife feels at the moment.

When I tell my wife this, she says something like, yeah, but what if I don't want to then, you'll just get mad, etc.

x2startermom

It just happens.

Gaia

With toddlers? It's normally planned for when their sleeping. (When not preggy that is)

unbelievable

I plan on having sex. My wife plans to turn it down.

SoVeryLost

Haha.....sorry. Had to chuckle at this.
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Lionelhutz

In the good times it was always spontaneous. I really don't like planned sex, it just seems so mechanical. But I realize for those couples with kids who are still having sex it can be essential

Browncoat

I prefer heat of the moment, my wife finds that planning sex helps her.

So for the past month or two, I just let her surprise me even though she schedules sex into her day (we both get what we want that way). That is I don't know her schedule so it's feels more like a heat of the moment.

Kurosity

A little of both. Sometimes it is planned but then sometimes we become opportunistic, "Hey the baby is down for a nap and school is not out for another thirty min." Yeah love those moments

Pandakiss

It's not planned per say. It's expected and until someone says I'm too tired or sick. Sometimes I will state I need sex like now or I will tell hubby when we get home no matter what time...he has a top notch bj coming his way.

We might have a conversation about sex and try to make it happen. Not always guaranteed.

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