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Old 05-28-2012, 12:03 PM   #31 (permalink)
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My thoughts... Your husband is just making up excuses to not be intimate with you. His head was hitting the headboard? Come on now! There's a pretty easy fix for that. I would guess that once you move, there will be a continuous stream of excuses until you give up or something blows up.

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My thoughts... Your husband is just making up excuses to not be intimate with you. His head was hitting the headboard? Come on now! There's a pretty easy fix for that. I would guess that once you move, there will be a continuous stream of excuses until you give up or something blows up.

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I guess we will see what happens after we move, packing as we speak, but have taken a small
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Old 05-28-2012, 02:58 PM   #33 (permalink)
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I'm truly surprised at the female posters who have responded in the affirmative.

In a healthy male where everything is working properly, the sexual apparatus produces a fluid and the fluid is stored. Like your lungs or your stomach or your bladder or any other containment organ, storage capacity is finite.
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Old 05-28-2012, 04:07 PM   #34 (permalink)
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He's also been not wanting to have sex after his hernia surgery in Febuary. While we were on our cruise in late march we had sex 4 times and he was able to perform fully each time, but did say it hurt a little.
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Old 05-28-2012, 05:34 PM   #35 (permalink)
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My husband went our entire marraige without masterbating, he felt that was like cheating -his words not mine.... I only learned this 3 yrs ago when I opened up the dialog about masterbation, we were too embarrassed to talk about it before....
I told him I was a cheater then! I was shocked he never did, and he was shocked I did.

We always had sex at least once a week though cause I needed it that much, during pregnancy even more. He told me when he was younger, before we met, he would masterbate 3 times a day though.

At age 48, I think he could easily go a whole week, probably more-without going crazy.... his test is lower than the average for men his age (had him tested 3 yrs ago)...but I won't let him go that long to find out...then I'd be going crazy.
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Old 05-28-2012, 10:35 PM   #36 (permalink)
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I think my Husbabd might have a number of things going on. I know he's ver depressed and I suspect he still has anger towards me and the things I did with my affair and I also suspect he has guilt for his sexual affair. I can only hold onto hope that when life us better he will sexually awaken
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Old 05-29-2012, 09:21 AM   #37 (permalink)
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I think your husband could use some psychological counseling. He sounds depressed to me, he might also have some form of obsessive compulsive disorder (his need for everything to be just so in order to be stress-free and able to enjoy sex, for example). You already suspect he may have Asperger's.

I would get him evaluated before things get worse. You said he had low testosterone as well. Is he doing anything to resolve that issue? Lack of T could certainly be contributing to the other issues you described.
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Old 05-29-2012, 12:49 PM   #38 (permalink)
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Yes they can.
None of the ones I know! Sorry to disagree!
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Old 05-29-2012, 01:09 PM   #39 (permalink)
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I think I already answered but if not, I could never go more than a 3 days without releasing. At the 3 day mark my ejaculation looks like urination and it doesn't stop. I am not sure if my body makes too much semen because I never quit but either way, I get super uncomfortable and have had bouts with prostatitis because of leaving my prostate too full.
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Old 05-30-2012, 08:57 AM   #40 (permalink)
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My husband is very depressed and I doubt he's going to do anything about it. It's a very depressing time. U actually didn't know how depressed he was until last night when he said hes a piece of ****. His depressing is because we have lost our house and we are moving out now. We could not rent a house on our own, so we have to live seperate.

Last night I said we lost the house because of me. I'm the one who kicked him out last end of August. If I had not done that then maybe we would still have our house and he would be happy, but he still would be leaving to work out of state in AZ. I know in my heart we would still lose the house at some point due to unable to sell it without putting loads of money into it. My husband also might be going out of country for work and I couldn't possibly stay in this house living as a single mom.

I don't know if he has low T, he's never been tested. He does need to go have physical done, but I doubt he will do that. You can't make a man go to the dr especially when he itching to get back to work.

He does not feel like a man right now because he can't provide a home for his family and he's been out of work. There has been work waiting for him in AZ, but he's not gone yet because of our housing situation.

My Husband does have OCD and I've known that for a long while. It's a real pain in the butt, but I can't do a thing about it.

Perhaps I could get a divorce, but what would that solve?

I just have to hope that things will get better in the next coming months. My husband does not hold out much faith. He seems to always want instant gratification
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Old 06-15-2012, 09:27 AM   #41 (permalink)
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Ok...so the answer to how long he can go without having sex where he comes is about 2 months. It's been about 2 weeks since he surprised me with the great sex. While I was packing up one bathroom ( we were moving) and he was packing up the master bathroom, he called me in for help. He had found my vibrator and told me to drop my pants. He used my vibrator on me (that was a first) then he said ok it's time for the real thing now. I'd not felt him this big and this hard in a long time.

Unfortunatly sex like that isn't going to happen for a long long time. We are now living with his parents and he's getting ready to leave to work in AZ tomorrow
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Granted I'm not married yet, just engaged. But we have been living together for 3 years now and together for 6.

Every guy is different, and I'm certainly a HD guy myself. But that being said. I can't go very long. After 2-3 days my fiancee knows its been to long. I just get mean and crabby. I dunno about other guys, but masterbation helps me, but not much. It isn't nearly the same.

I also think he is making up excuses. There isn't much that would stop me or most of my friends. My fiancee even makes jokes about that. I've been injured at work and had to go to the ER and still initiated the next day.

That's just me thou. I have a married friend who says he hasn't had sex for 4 years due to the meds his wife is on killing her drive.
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I'm worried that my Husband loves me, but is not sexually attracted to me. Little comments that he's made in the past even if it's just once bothers me, coupled with this non sex!! He dies not talk about my boobs now, finally!! But he did talk about how he wanted them to be bigger and that my nipple area was too large, right after he moved back in. I felt compared to OW breasts everyday. I also learned something else that he never said before our seperation. He says he can not fit his whole penis inside anymore for that deep feint because I had a hysterectomy taking out my cervix. He only mentioned it once. Now I can look back on our sex post hysterectomy and remember that he doesn't go balls in. If there is a surgery to correct this, I would do it for him. We have not talked about it again after he said he can't go balls in
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Is this a typo? Or have me and my H been doing it wrong?

And as for your question, I sure hope they can (go without sex at least), my H was in jail for 7 months... Apparently they're not allowed to masturbate either (destruction of gov't property - no joke)... Of course he did
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Cherry, the ban against porn and masturbation in prisons has always struck me as particularly stupid...I mean, really, if there's one population that you'd like to be as happy and non-aggressive as possible, wouldn't it be a prison population? Nah, let's make sure they're all frustrated and angry. That'll work! (Me, I'd pipe porns into their cells 24/7. No riots on my watch )
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Old 06-15-2012, 12:36 PM   #45 (permalink)
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Sounds like he may be depressed, but also like he may not be interested in you sexually and you are allowing him to be non sexual by accepting his excuses. Stress or now stress he should have a physical need to ejaculate. I have not gone 3 days without sex or mastubation since I was 13 and I am 42 now. I have a very high drive though.
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