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Can men go for periods of months without sex or masterbation?
My husband has zero drive during this period in our life. He shows me effection but has no desire to get hard at all. He spends his time drawing house designs, playing video games and watching tv.
I know he feels very bad for not bring able to provide a house for his family. We tried everything we could to move out of state where he's going to be working.
It feels for him at least through my eyes that everything has to be perfect in life for him to want sexual activity Posted via Mobile Device
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Re: Can men go for periods of months without sex or masterbation?
For me the answer is no. I've not had sex in six months, when wife said she wanted a divorce. If it wasn't for masturbation I wouldve gone mad by now Posted via Mobile Device
Re: Can men go for periods of months without sex or masterbation?
Well, I do know men can go at least 4 weeks without anything for sure. My husband has done so a couple times. He doesn't masturbate at all (I have told him I'd be fine if he did, he doesn't. Not gonna debate that with anyone. We're both home all day. He doesn't). And there were a couple months when we didn't have sex at all. They weren't consecutive months, but still, we went without it. So, yes, they can go without any kind of sexual release for at least a month, for sure.
Re: Can men go for periods of months without sex or masterbation?
Really, it's not a matter of CAN they... it's more about WILL they. Physically, anyone can go without it. Not everyone is willing to do that tho. Not saying it's necessarily a bad thing either way, just saying that it CAN be done, if someone so chooses to do so.
Re: Can men go for periods of months without sex or masterbation?
My hubby has been pretty LD for a while. I don't doubt he's depressed. He seems to have normal drive when we are on vacation or on a short get away. although our last vacation post affairs, the sex was not the same. He was not as bashful. I was hoping for shower sex or the suprise bathroom sex. He never surprised me and just took me like he used too.
I think he has very deep guilt for what he did
During the time we were seperated he was able to have a sexual affair so I know his plumbing works. I think he is really depressed. I'm hoping time will heal. I know when he's working snd making good $$ he feels better about himself. Posted via Mobile Device
Re: Can men go for periods of months without sex or masterbation?
Yes they can! My husband has happily gone years without sex and isn't bothered! Lucky me.....I am sorry you are in this situation and hope things improve for you soon, it is the most soul destroying thing and I do sympathise with you XXX
Re: Can men go for periods of months without sex or masterbation?
My husband has now gone for at least 27 days with out sex and longer than that as far as cummin. He has zero interest in sex.
Before our seperation we averaged once every 3 months for at least 9 months.
If this zero sex lasts even after our stress is gone and we are lining together again in a house, then I'm really going to ask to go to a MC that specializes in sexual issues and have him go to the dr for a physical Posted via Mobile Device
Re: Can men go for periods of months without sex or masterbation?
The longest I've gone that I can remember is about a week. Since being with my GF, I'd rather use our "down time" to build sexual tension, rather than just achieve a release on my own. So when one of us goes away for holidays or vacation, we both just let the tension build.
And then she walks funny for a few days after we get back together...
In my opinion, something is "wrong" with your husband if he's gone months. Either in your relationship or mentally/emotionally or physically. But that's just my personal opinion.
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Can men go for periods of months without sex or masterbation? 
