diwali123 said: Even just saying my name would be nice. He is so quiet and sometimes I just feel like he's not really mentally there with me. I try to draw him out but it's like pulling teeth.
I am really not convinced every man can step this up to what some of us want or crave.
I don't mean to be a downer... but how many Men can't get some of this from their wives....no matter what hoops they jump through, and I know from my own experience .....feeling as HIGH on sex as any man- with "talking dirty" being my new found language for a time.... it just flowed out of me..... I could not
get my husband to step THIS up - as much as I would have loved & reveled in it... No, some things had to be left to fantasy.
My husband is natutally a quieter man, I knew this when I married him... he is also more Beta. Who am I to think I am going to do a overhaul on him just cause I decided I wanted more in the bedroom, he was always a gracious Lover. Why suddendly did I need more?
I would love for him to talk AS DIRTY AS ME
in bed...but I think it puts pressure on him...it's not "I think"...It is "I know". When I want more sex to begin with, he already has the added pressure of getting it up, adding this to the mix = let's not go there.
Aristotle said : If he is beta, let him know in the bedroom you want a man.
I have said things like this... This is very very offending..... I wouldn't recommend talking to your husband like this... I guess it depends on his personality... Maybe yours will get pizzed off & try to prove you wrong (some people are like this- I think I am one of those).....
Or if he is like my husband (very different than me !)......it just makes him feel worse -feeling he can not please me. I ought to know, as we have had fights about this very subject. If I kept pushing it, It would have drug us both down to a very bad place. Sometimes I still get a little irritated...it revisits me... I wish he was "more" in some of these areas.... but I have to reign it in & let it go.
I had to accept...what he offers of himself... A lover who aims to please touchingly....he wants to be there, he loves me more than his own life, he is there mentally, he is there emotionally, he loves sex... but the verbal dirty talking... this was pressure.
I used to be quiet too, but I came out of my shell....maybe a little too much! I was caged. He was always what he was, so It seems.
Tall Average Guy said: Tease him and make him vocalize what he wants. Ex. - As you go down on him, kiss his legs and stomach, all the while asking what he wants you to do. Make him ask you to suck him.
I've done so much like this, maybe tonight I will try this on him, I know not to get my hopes up though. When I read things like this... I think to myself.... "I F'n wish". How FUN that would be!! Maybe when he was 18 and had a few drinks. Not today. I missed his revved up Horny "gotta have it now" swimming in his prime with 5 hard-ons a day that needed relief.
That's one of the problems with us. For my husband it is all about the emotional connection, so alot of HOT erotic talk does not flow from him. I think one has to be feeling this... doused in it - to be an enthusiastc deliverer.... So in our case, I must calm my erotic nerves and be thankful for the more sensual affectionate love making... this is what my husband is all about.
How would you describe your husband ??