cynthiaf

I've been married for two years and our sex life is good. Only problem is that my husband wants me to take the initiative when it comes to sex. He wants me to seduce him. I know this might sound stupid, but I have no idea how. Where do I even start? Any ideas?
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EleGirl

Here are some ideas:

10 Tips on How to Seduce Your Husband Successfully

Your husband wants to feel like you are really turned on by him... that you want him.. not that it's just him who wants you.

Search the internet for "how to seduce my husband". There are plenty of places with good ideas.

Another idea.. When he comes home, meet him at the door wearing something sexy .. or nothing at all. If you have kids.. be in your bedroom and text him to come to our bedroom.

Take a pole dancing class and install a pole in your bedroom...

Or.. once a week at night, when the two of you get in bed.. start foreplay with him.. just reach over and start playing with him and nibbling on him. Or roll him over and start oral on him.

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dubbizle

[I am a man ] A lot of us are very Visual so break out the sexy undies and follow what the poster above said or if you don't have kids break out the lube and bend over the couch/table ect when he walk in from work.Oral always works so unbuckle his pants and get the fun started or just lay him down and sit on his face.
Take a shower with him and soap him up then off to bed
The main thing is just to do it and have fun when you are doing it.

lamaga

Good for you, Cynthia! Being open to learn is great, and a signal that your husband is a lucky guy.

It's a habit, like any other -- it may be hard to start but once you get into it, it's really not hard at all.

Some suggestions --

Text him during the day -- something sexy. Doesn't have to be explicit if you are not comfortable with that, just something like, "I can't wait to get you in bed tonight."

Invite him to take a shower with you before bed.

In the middle of your favorite TV show, lean over and whisper, "do you mind if we record the rest? Because I need you now."

Go out to eat and in the middle of dinner tell him you are not wearing underwear. (Caveat -- this works on about 75% of men, but will freak out the other 25%, so proceed with caution.)

When you're coming home from the store/restaurant/gym/wherever, lean over when you get in the car and whisper something sexy. If you cannot think of something sexy, just whisper "I want you."

And yes, pretty lingerie never hurts! If money is an issue, try Ross, they frequently have some sexy nighties for very cheap.

Aristotle

Do everything lamaga said. Problem solved.

effess

My wife would do #10 - and that's about it. She's roll her eyes at the rest of them and talk about how stupid they all are...........

lamaga

Effess, I'm very sorry about that. Why are they stupid? Have her call me!

Shiksa

My H is not a lingerie guy. Last night I just hopped into bed naked as a jay bird. That always gets him going. Today as he was leaving for a meeting, I expressed my regret that we couldn't have a nooner. I did suggest that we could change it to an afternoon delight upon his return. Bet he spent the entire meeting thinking... cause he got home and oooh la la. Then it was off to pick the kids up.

See there are many ways to let them know you are in the mood. I can get myself in the mood thinking of ways to seduce him. Mo fun.

effess

Lingerie or not its the thought of it that makes it special - that i care enough i love u enough i wantt you enough to try.
That seducing or loving ur spouse in new ways is a priority to u instead of checking a box of your to-do list.

Runs like Dog

A smile, a sultry voice, a gentle but firm kiss about the ears. Then unzip him. If he needs more of a cue than that he's dead.

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Encore DT

Actually it doesn't sound stupid at all...some guys live to be seduced

working_together

Wake him up in the middle of the night by giving him a b/j....

effess

I've asked for that for our entire marriage it still hasnt happened. it still hasn't happened and she will give me bj's but only after a shower to suck on 'stinky ****' in the middle of the night or in age morning is a no-go.
Alright i think im done w this thread its getting depressing

Aristotle

... you'll need a wrench to unwrap him from your finger.


That's how you leave a man whipped. The fact my wife knows she doesn't have to give me an orgasm has made her extremely open to random bjs for fun.

happylovingwife

Seriously? I can't believe this is such a thing for men. What's the appeal? I hate to be awoken for any reason so I can't wrap my brain around it. I'm willing to do it if it will make him gloriously happy.