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I've been trying to talk the hubby into tying me up for... I dunno... about 12 years. He just rolls his eyes at the idea.
We used to play this game, where he'd do whatever he wanted to me, and wouldn't let me touch him in any way in response. It was soooo freaking hot, it drove me crazy. Ever since the first time he did that, I've wanted him to restrain me. Add that extra level of restraint by tying me up. I just can't convince him to do it, and he doesn't offer a reason, just rolls his eyes like I'm insane for asking, and wanting that. *sigh*
We are very willing to experiment. we have had sex in public , on the beach , done skinny dipping., talked about sex toys [ Its difficult to get quality toys down here],looked at " ladies porn ",blindfolds all sorts of things. I even bought a Pink pair of padded handcuffs, but I couldn't do it,even though she likes it.
Unfortunately I'm not at all willing to experiment - and this is just one of her 'likes' on a long, long list of personal preferences that she dropped on me out of the blue one day after 18 years of marriage. I feel bad for both of us, she married the wrong guy.
Yep, you have to remember they're under there before you ask for help with the laundry. lol
I remember a time in my teens, my mom was on a spring cleaning rampage, and I was enlisted... Moving couches to clean, then on to bedrooms. Too hard to move their king size all at once, so mom pulled the blankets and sheets, and had me help move the mattresses..... There was the largest freaking pink dildo under the mattress.... I was probably 15 or so, I was HORRIFIED, I turned and ran out of the bedroom. She moved it somewhere, and then told me she was ready for help moving the mattress... We were both sooo red in the face....
I remember a time in my teens, my mom was on a spring cleaning rampage, and I was enlisted... Moving couches to clean, then on to bedrooms. Too hard to move their king size all at once, so mom pulled the blankets and sheets, and had me help move the mattresses..... There was the largest freaking pink dildo under the mattress.... I was probably 15 or so, I was HORRIFIED, I turned and ran out of the bedroom. She moved it somewhere, and then told me she was ready for help moving the mattress... We were both sooo red in the face....
Your post made me think of something.
Maybe somebody could start a thread on this board dealing with how old we were when our parents had that " birds and bees " talk with us and what was the experience like.
Or maybe even the most embarrassing [ sex related ] moments growing up.....
That should be fun!
That is , of course , if it was never done before.
Your post made me think of something.
Maybe somebody could start a thread on this board dealing with how old we were when our parents had that " birds and bees " talk with us and what was the experience like.
Or maybe even the most embarrassing [ sex related ] moments growing up.....
That should be fun!
That is , of course , if it was never done before.
In fine TAM tradition, I will continue the derailment....
No birds and bees talk....porn mags were laying around freely available from early elementary school age, and I guess they figured that covered it.
In fine TAM tradition, I will continue the derailment....
No birds and bees talk....porn mags were laying around freely available from early elementary school age, and I guess they figured that covered it.
Not the best way to raise kids...
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Maybe we are both from the same era.......
No "Birds and Bees " for me either. But my mother was" uber conservative. " But fortunately [ ? ] we had a VCR and us guys used to have video cassettes passing around. Magazines too.
Kids now have so much more resources, good and bad.
Our age was basically the " stone age " compared to what's available now.
No "Birds and Bees " for me either. But my mother was" uber conservative. " But fortunately [ ? ] we had a VCR and us guys used to have video cassettes passing around. Magazines too.
Kids now have so much more resources, good and bad.
Our age was basically the " stone age " compared to what's available now.
Funny how times have changed.
I still remember the booby picture torn from some magazine, folded to pocket size, that made quite a few rounds in late elementary school
birds and bees, why are we supposed to learn all about these flying creatures at that age... it seems like I'm missing something, does "birds and bees" refer to something other than the wild kingdom?
lol just kidding of course, but I never got the speech, and my parents were hopelessly shy around their kids or else just unaffectionate. Have never heard them having sex once, I have seen them passionately kiss twice, but maybe a few dozen casual pecks.
I suspect they are passionate behind closed doors though, as to sex ed I wasn't allowed to go, a couple years later my mom tossed be a christian dating and puberty book published in the 50's (I think it was a first print too).
I'm like your wife. There is no way I would allow anyone to tie me down. I would panic. I mean really panic.
I could have something to do with previous life experiences.
I panic if anyone puts their hands around my neck.. because when I was 21 I was attacked. The guy tried to stangle me and drag me into an empty field.
After that I cannot trust anyone enough to give them control.
Now my husband has allowed me to tie him up and that was fun. I know double standards.
Hi EleGirl.
In regards to your past experience. So you would be horrified and go into panic if your husband tied you up in a romantic experience? I just figured that you would trust your husband as he is your partner and so on.
I would just be offended if my wife started reliving a similar past experience and looked at me as a perpetrator even for one second. I heard of folks who had offenses committed against them in the past and it now causes them to have difficulties during intimacy with their spouses.
But I have never been through those experiences, so I can't begin to understand. So please please (a million times) forgive me if I'm over board.
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