Originally Posted by Monty4321

Hi EleGirl.

In regards to your past experience. So you would be horrified and go into panic if your husband tied you up in a romantic experience? I just figured that you would trust your husband as he is your partner and so on.

I would just be offended if my wife started reliving a similar past experience and looked at me as a perpetrator even for one second. I heard of folks who had offenses committed against them in the past and it now causes them to have difficulties during intimacy with their spouses.

But I have never been through those experiences, so I can't begin to understand. So please please (a million times) forgive me if I'm over board.

Originally Posted by Gaia

If you were (For example) stabbed repeatedly with a knife by an ex girlfriend for whatever reason... are you saying you wouldn't be wary everytime someone lifted a knife?

Originally Posted by Dollystanford

you'd think wouldn't you?

Originally Posted by Monty4321

Well... ...I'm sorry, I just don't think I would around the wife. But..I guess if I weren't married but had a girl friend, then maybe I get your point.

Originally Posted by Gaia

No need to be sorry. I am giving a for example. Another would be... say.. a soldier comming back from a war zone. Now he had been through a hell of alot right? So he will more then likely have "triggers" that bring about .. i suppose the best way to say it would be... a survival instinct. Now it's nothing against their SO.. but it's not something that they can just NOT do either... Do you get what I'm saying or am I not explaining it right? Sorry if it's not making much sense.. am trying to explain it the best way i can.

Originally Posted by Monty4321

Oh..Gaia, you did a good job explaining. I knew what you meant in your first response. I understand what you are saying.....

Originally Posted by Caribbean Man

Well Ms. Stanford,
We're waiting...........