Join Date: May 2012
Location: European Expat in Asia
Re: Ladies who like restraints.
Not a woman, but still feel entitled to respond.
Wife and me do it often and love it, our best sexual experiences (Don't remember how many times they took steel handcuffs away from me at airport customs).
Thing is, she had a pretty lame sex-life before we met and if anyone told her about something like that she would probably have reported him.
Many years ago I was at a Tony Robbins DWD at the Gold Coast and Tony asked into the crowd (400 people, about 250 women): "Who of the women in this room would like to be raped one day?" To my surprise, even on this question, two women raised their hands.
Then he continued: "Now, imagine, you walk home from a party, you wear your sexiest black dress, all alone, your way leads through a dark alley. Suddenly, right in front of you appears a muscular built, tall stranger, his blue eyes look straight into yours and they leave do doubt about his intentions. You have nowhere to run. He grabs you and, without exchanging even a word, takes you." (I can't recall the exact words, but it was something really tasty).
80% of the women raised their hands.
Then he said: "Yeah! Because that's so different."
I believe it is all in the introduction and which picture you create for her. What worked for me is that I never talked about it. Just at one point early on I blindfolded her (gently). She loved that as it puts her attention totally on feeling her body (which is good), not on watching (which can be terrifying). Then I slowly tied her up and started trying some toys on her (always gently at first).
I know until this day this was the most remarkable experience for her.
The mean thing of me was that I took a picture of her when she was lying there all tied up. Later on, when we cooled down, I showed it to her. She was shocked. And I know for sure that, had I tried to talk to her that this is what I wanted and if she wanted to try it, she would probably have called 911.