06-25-2012, 09:14 PM
Join Date: Jun 2012
| | Re: Wife seeking divorce -Lack of sex
I tried my best and yet did not succeed. We had the mutual councelling and I showed that all her issues could be resolved yet she did not agree and was adamant that she wanted to end the marraige. These were her words to the counsellor "I want to end this marraige and no one will be able to convince me otherwise".
She had said that we had very litte sex (by this she ment intercourse) and she was furstrated with this, but I pointed out that even when we were cosying up in bed or even when we were having foreplay (which we had more times than actual interouse) she never said or just come on top of me and had it as this was the best time and she did not even have to ask. She did not have any answers just she looked at the ceiling and had a little smile on her face.
I asked her how would I know that she was suffering if she did not tell me anything and go to her father and discuss about our sex life before first discussing it with me, I am the one who can give her more sex which she wants and not her father. She says that a husband should not be told that his wife desires more sex and he should just know it. But I am not a mind reader.
She had earlier alleged that I did not have erections, for this I went to a sexologist and he tested my erection and in his report had written "hard and normal erection" he even did a doppler sonography test to test the blood flow and it too was normal and mentioned in the report. Showed her my testostorone report which was also normal. I told her that there is nothing physicaly wrong with me we can have as much sex she wants, all she has to do is ask.
She had issues with my parents who live in the same town, I told her that I am ready to move to a diffrent city and my mother would not be able to come home unannounced twice a week which she did not like.
Still she was unconvinced and just made general statements that she is not ready to come home and go through the frustation and grief again. I said that when I am ready to have as much sex as she wants , there is no reason to be frustrated. However nothing could make her think otherwise.
So now instead of fighting the divorce and wasting five years of my life I have decided to go for a mutual divorce and get it over with.
I tried my best but ........