MrVanilla

I'm in the same boat as your husband. Wife has suggested this is something she could do to me, and has also suggested that she likes this and anal sex... and it's not going to happen either way. Not ever. Kid's can be cruel, but I clearly remember the names I was called in school. They were wrong, and I will prove it. This is about as much as I want to talk about it, so if he doesn't want to discuss it, I wouldn't press it.

ZkPl7

I understand and I'm sorry people called you those names. he was called names in school too and his father and brother were really cruel with these kinds of things too. we've discussed it a lot, he knows he is secure with us and he has expressed in his way that he wishes he could do this stuff...but is still hung up about it. do you have the desire to do this? I know you said never would you do it, but does it sound like something you'd physically enjoy?

MrVanilla

This is the very question that I’ve had so much trouble answering as of late.

In high school, when I first became sexually active, I had no idea what I was doing. Everyone talked about sex and from a social standpoint, I believed this was something I was supposed to want and yet could not find. In college, my goals changed. I sought a long-term relationship - found one - and from that moment on, my ideas of sex changed.

My first ‘longer-term’ partner taught me about the great disparity between a man’s ability to be sexually satisfied versus the woman’s needs. In every sexual encounter since then, I demanded from myself the physical ability to ‘outlast’ my partner - which meant that I to physically learn how to ignore pleasurable stimulus. The sooner I gave-in to pleasurable stimulus, the sooner love-making was over - and the sooner it’s over - the higher the probability she’s not satisfied.

So I’ve spent my my adult sex life in a constant denial of pleasure... if it feels good, I should avoid it.

What that has translated into now is that I don’t want tons of foreplay, have very negative interests in sex acts that are not vaginal - and the last thing in world I want is any more pleasurable stimulations.

Yes, I understand - now - that those childhood insults were hurled by kids who probably didn’t know the meaning of their words - but I swore to myself then that I’d never participate in certain sex acts. Apparently keeping promises means something to me. (even the stupid ones?) So now, all these years later, I have two ingrained reasons not engage in any anal play.

These restrictions on my part, became terribly problematic when my wife of nearly two decades suddenly professes her great desire to engage in a litany of different sex acts. She went from seemingly satisfied with our loving vaginal sex, to asking for oral, anal, light bondage, rough sex, and confessing to a host of highly unusual past experiences...

Oh, lucky me. What do I want out of all these new opportunities? I want someone to please give me back my real wife, because I’m not sure I want this woman around my kids.

So please, talk to your husband

- and the sooner the better -

wiigirl

This...go slow. Also let him know how much it turns you on.

mina

If he knows and understands about your G-spot all you really need to tell him is that he has one, too, but you can only access it through his anus. If you haven't read about prostrate milking / massage I highly recommend. I presented this to my husband as a "let's try this and see what's in there, shall we?" He's a mans man and completely dismisses anything 'gay' so presenting it the way I did helped a lot. We discussed it at length in the shower and I demo'd my little tiny female finger and how small and non threatening it was. He was pretty game after that. It helps to start in the shower and get everything really clean ... you can sort of loosen things up there before the main event. He really likes it with something else fun going on - HJ, BJ or both.

committed_guy

My DW is scared of that area on me, but has no issues with me going there with her. She only says that she's not comfortable with that.

A long time ago, in the shower when she was washing me down there she touched me with the soapy finger. I moaned and let her know I like that. She didn't penetrate or stay long, but it was just a quick touch. That could be one way to sneak in there on him.

Second, when she used to give me HJs she would press on my perineum when asked me what I wanted. I also asked her to touch my down further but she said she wasn't comfortable. A few times when we had been drinking, it was late, and I was having trouble getting there she was push further down. It wasn't quiet touching my anus but the angle put the same pressure on the opening there. It was amazing and I O'd very quickly. I let her know how much I liked that. I think she did it on purpose to get me to go since I was taking too long. So that might be another way to get him used to receiving pleasure from there. Sort of an indirect pressure.