Sex in MarriageSexual problems are common in many relationships. This section is for discussions about sexuality. Please limit discussions to those asking for help with a problem and those offering advice. Any other threads may be deleted.
So the recent threads... about females having trouble verbalizing when they are horny (not a pleasant word for us to use, lol) I realized i have issues with this too. So I just said to my husband that I was trying to figure out, other than physically initiating what would be a good way to let him know I am feeling frisky........ he said.......... say Meow.
Note in his lunch box? Bra on the TV. I like meow of course too. A spoon for spooning. Get um off, yee ha. I positively have to have it tonight. I could write a thousand but then I have not had sex in 8 years. Maybe the others here will be more creative with more recent experience. I do not like the word horny either. LOL
Note in his lunch box? Bra on the TV. I like meow of course too. A spoon for spooning. Get um off, yee ha. I positively have to have it tonight. I could write a thousand but then I have not had sex in 8 years. Maybe the others here will be more creative with more recent experience. I do not like the word horny either. LOL
I thought hubby would take the hint tonight when I said I needed to be "inspected" after my shower tonight... no dice. I'm beginning to resent his doctors.
So the recent threads... about females having trouble verbalizing when they are horny (not a pleasant word for us to use, lol) I realized i have issues with this too. So I just said to my husband that I was trying to figure out, other than physically initiating what would be a good way to let him know I am feeling frisky........ he said.......... say Meow.
I thought hubby would take the hint tonight when I said I needed to be "inspected" after my shower tonight... no dice. I'm beginning to resent his doctors.
Nothing. Seriously, I really want to hit his doctors sometimes. He has been dealing with depression (now diagnosed actually bipolar), anxiety, agoraphobia, now adult ADD... can't sleep... and they have put him on so damn many meds over the last four years that I swear we could have opened our own pharmacy at one point. They are FINALLY getting that under control. Unfortunately, it is at the expense of our sex life. We had other issues during that time as well, so it isn't all related to the meds. We are addressing those issues, still. I can look at it from the perspective that "at least we have sex once a week instead of every two weeks like before"... but until the meds came into the picture, it would be 2-3 times a week. He's only 31. Granted, I know sex drive decreases, but 31 seems awfully young. If it hasn't changed by his next appt, the doctor will be informed of the problem, and to see if there is anything we can do to help that area...without changing the meds (as long as they are working for the other problems). It could be something as simple as low T, and need to adjust that. At any rate, there is no way in hell I will leave. Once a week is better than once a month, for sure!
We have friends of ours with this problem too. They decided that she would put a certain object on the banister, like a figurine or decoration. Something nonchalant that their kid wouldn't know what it's really for.
I've read in another marriage forum the wife wearing a certain color eye shadow when intimacy is desired. Or the wife wearing a charm anklet and even using certain charms to mean what particular she is interested in. The charms themselves are innocent except to the parties involved. That way even if you had older kids wouldn't suspect anything except mom is wearing her hippie jewelry again.
We don't have this problem in my marriage since my wife is never interested in sex.
I just say to him "Screw me" or "Make love to me" or "I'm horny" or "Lets have sex" or something else equally blunt. I dunno, I don't really believe in beating around the bush.
I don't know, when my wife just bluntly says "wanna get busy" (which is how she always says it) it kind of turns me off. Something like a charm bracelet that I had to keep my eye out for and "find" would be kind of hot. I think maybe it somehow would satisfy my hunting instinct.
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Female Verbalizing desire... 
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