Sex in MarriageSexual problems are common in many relationships. This section is for discussions about sexuality. Please limit discussions to those asking for help with a problem and those offering advice. Any other threads may be deleted.
Oral is necessary to me. Both giving and receiving.
That's probably why I recently started doing it. I'm 38 and before I met my H I never had much oral done to me. In fact, up until about two years into my marriage, I had the same feelings about it as the OP's wife, and a few other posters.. its perverted, etc. I just never realized the benefits of doing it for my enjoyment too. Before he'd sometimes have a more musty smell when he kissed me after, he has a goatee too, so yeah.. pretty musty.
So I would say to the OP, if your wife has a wild streak, or she's even a little sexually adventurous, you might can convince her to at least try it once and if she doesn't like it she can grow it back.. its just hair (sure it itches for a few days, but it does stop). She might just find some benefits to it during that trial period and if shes a nature person and she ejoys the outdoors.. pools, lakes, beach, etc.. now is the time to suggest it
My concern is that she is perceiving my preference as perverse given her comparison to the body of a young girl. That in itself made me uncomfortable.
I think this is really important to come back to.
No. Liking a grown woman that is shaved or waxed IN NO WAY implies that you are a pedophile, have pedophilic tendencies, that you like little girls, or any other horrible disgusting illegal thing. It's personal preference. I shave mine because it makes everything better.
No. Liking a grown woman that is shaved or waxed IN NO WAY implies that you are a pedophile, have pedophilic tendencies, that you like little girls, or any other horrible disgusting illegal thing. It's personal preference. I shave mine because it makes everything better.
100% agree. And on that note, I can see why some folks might think otherwise, and that's unfortunate. My dad said once that he hates the new nudey mags because all the girls vagina area are bald.. he said jokingly that it looks a little childlike but that he just prefers the look of big bushy vaginas like in the early days of playboy.. preference and what you grew up with I guess. Awkward convo with dad, yeah.
i do like a change up from time to time.
i enjoy them smooth, trimmed or where i need to bring a bush hog with me.
i just like em how ever.
its always her call.
Shaving down there!? No way. Not with all the nicks and cuts I always get on my legs. My skin is way too sensitive there and I can only imagine the bumps and ITCH. I'm glad H doesn't request that.
I can also see the wife's point a little. If it were me, I would wonder WHY it was so important to my husband that I'm smooth down there. It might make me a little uncomfortable. I think women's private parts should look different than little girl's. Shaving legs and underarms is a little different, in my opinion, since they are not "private parts."
Momtwo4... how could you even compare a womans shaved cooch to a lil girls? That's a tad weird line of thinking imo. Some women do it because these reasons....
1. It's a hell of alot less messy come that monthly rag week....
2. as someone else stated... when your SO is going down on you.. i highly doubt he wants hair stuck between his teeth...
3. If it gets too long it tends to get rather uncomfortable.. not to mention it's itchy regardless of being shaved, waxed, or not when them ingrown hairs pop up.
4. There are many diff styles to choose from when shaving nowadays other then the bald eagle. There are... the landing strip and the bermuda triangle for one..
Oh and keeping it trimmed down there is also helpful if one doesn't wish to shave it completely..
Well, it's none of my business, but I agree with her. I think this recent craze for shaving/Brazilians directly ties into the increasing sexualization of young girls. I'm disturbed by men who don't want women to look like adult women.
Sorry, but I think this line of reasoning is bunk. Why is expecting women to shave their legs and underarms just a normal societal expectation to where you are weird if you don't do it (at least here in the U.S.) but liking a shaved vulva has pedophilic implications?
My personal observation? I've had a fair number of women (not a lot) and heard straight talk from others. Seems like the ones more into sex will shave (particularly if they like oral) and the ones less into sex will not. Simple as that.
So gentlemen, if you didn't go down on your wives, would it still matter if she shaved or not?
Yes. Hair retains odor. I occassionally shave my underarms and private area for precisely that reason; it gets thick and eventually it just does not get 100% fresh otherwise.
There also is an aesthetic component having nothing to do with sexual acts. I'm sure that if I let a scraggly beard grow without shaving or trimming my ex would complain very quickly.
Can't believe I'm putting this on a public forum but I'm pretty ruthless about body hair. So down there...I take it all off and have done so for years. I've done it even before I became a mother. It's too ingrained in me now to stop plus hubby likes it that way. He liked the natural look too but I know he prefers this look. He does some light manscaping for me on his body so I have no problems taking some weeds out of my lady garden.
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and never had a complaint and was very sexual.
