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Hello everyone. My boyfriend and I have been having trouble lately... Well I can't really say "lately" because it's happened pretty frequently in the past to. I'd say I experience pain during intercourse about half the time we have sex.
It's not because my boyfriend is particularly large. He is average sized. About 6 1/2 inches.
It seems like my boyfriend and I can only have sex comfortably if we are in missionary, doggie style, or me on top. There are other positions I'd like to try, but I just can't handle them. I tear very easily. I usually end up getting ripped at the bottom down there. It's very frustrating because after that we have to wait 2-3 days for me to "heal up".
I've went to doctors about this problem before and they look at me and tell me nothings wrong. It's just a tear. Use more lubrication.
Well we've tried that and it isn't making a difference! Could anyone please shed some light on this?
your vagina is flexible and can be stretched- women give birth after all.
to be honest if you have positions that are satisfying then I would give the fancy positions that cause pain a rest, you can always ease into trying the other positions and such, you do need to be more relaxed in order to try them and right now you are too scared/tense. I suggest when you get super horny you give them a try as it will help.
Thank you for the advice. I'll be sure and give it a try. I've really never been able to experience other positions without having pain. I wish there was a quick solution to this as I've heard other women complain of this problem as well.
Well perhaps that is one of the reasons. But it's not like my bf is just pounding away at me (for lack of better words). When I say "rough sex" I meant more of bdsm play, not really hardcore sex. He's tried being gentle with me to no avail. It happened when we first started dating too, and I know we weren't having rough sex then.
Roughness, hair growing back, position, not enough lube size can all cause tears....after you get one, clean well with warm washcloth and put some neosporin on it a couple times a day and wipe each time you use the restroom with a babywipe for faster healing. Also more frequent sex will help stretch you so the tears dont keep happening, but not rough sex you may need to tone it down or a bit. Posted via Mobile Device
I am also having the same problem and I have given birth 3 times vaginally and am not particularly tight nor is he large. Same thing happens to me only it is every time and takes weeks to heal.
My wife had that problem. As it turned out her Seasonique brand bc pill knocked out her vestibular glands killing natural lubrication. Switched pills, problem went away.
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