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Porn Sex: One of you (usually the man) has a long droopy mustache (yes, it's a requirement). The formula is: 1) Blowjob. 2) Titjob. 3) Cunnilingus. 3) Vaginal Sex. 4) Anal sex. 5) Unload on her face and/or breasts. In this order, without deviation, every single time.
I never understood "porn sex" either. Tacoma said lack of emotional connection and just a need to get off.
Makes sense to me. When I see porn I always think....I can do that better. Then again maybe we have porn sex....
PIV.....check
Anal.....check
Oral for him....check
Oral for me....check
Boob-job (not to completetion)..check
Rubbing my hair on him....check
69.....check
Doggy.....check
Recording us....check
Dirty talk...you betcha
Ass slapping, grabbing, biting of course
Not everything all in the same day. We do have sex without a need for a connection.
I call it servicing our bodies. We have close intimate sex as well.
D...too funny. That is always the formula isn't it.
I see posts where women refer to H wanting to have "porn sex". And they insinuate that it's a bad thing, or at least something that they wouldn't be into. I know we are all different and like different things, but aside from the more extreme fetishes (which would also be a matter of preference), everything I've seen in porn seems normal to a good, married sex life.
So what is porn sex vs. "regular sex"?
Porn sex is fantasy - f@cking to give a man a quick orgasm. Porn is geared towards men. The porn actresses don't have orgasms. It is raw, rough, it looks painful, and the whole thing is over in a few minutes.
The porn actresses are little more than props hanging on a mans penis. Most women, even wives, would not tolerate being used like that.
Did you ever see a porn actress have an orgasm? Treated with care and tenderness, ever see any foreplay any kissing or caressing?
How do I know - when we first got married, my husband thought it would be a good idea for me to look at porn with him to learn something about sex. It backfired badly. I went along with him for a week and then I cracked.
I did not want to be anything like those poor women that do porn. I felt disconnected from my husband for a time. It was horrible watching those women being used like that.
I want to understand too. Can you tell me what part of porn is normal marital and mutually enjoyable lovemaking? Can you explain how and why a wife would want to have porn sex?
What does she get out of it? Perhaps a better question is - should she expect to get anything out of marital sex?
Should she be happy pleasing her husband as a show of love and devotion and sacrifice her sexual enjoyment?
Porn sex is fantasy - f@cking to give a man a quick orgasm. Porn is geared towards men. The porn actresses don't have orgasms.
Did you ever see a porn actress have an orgasm?
They pretend to, at least.
That's a big part of its appeal for most guys - the women at least pretend to enjoy it a lot, at least pretend to have multiple O's, etc.
I'm not going to venture into the rest of your post, but one of the big things about porn is how its implied/imputed ego-massaging; the men are sexual gods who are capable of giving women O's just by one steely gaze.
Much of mainstream porn also features oral on the woman too, fwiw.
I guess it depends on the level of trust and comfort of the spouse. Can you as the woman be comfortable with no fore play no after play, just a quick and rough 2-5 minutes bent over the couch or doggie.
Then continue your day with laughing and playing, eating, watching tv, and be ok with just having a fun quickie.
Not saying for it to be this all the time but every once in a while. All the time would be a prob for me.
Well, that's kind of what I meant. I don't see anything in porn that we don't enjoy....and practice often. Crazy positions sometimes, lots of orgasms, orgasms everywhere, etc...
I was referring to women who say "My husband wants porn sex." What do THEY mean? Hot, messy, crazy, mokey-flucking???? Possibly silly positions? Props? Cum in places other than the vag? Is that what they don't want? Do they mean they'd like to just keep it "normal", vanilla, no change-ups, nice and tidy?
I "get" what porn is, and the acting, and the lack of emotion, and the non-real so-called satisfaction.... I don't think that is what these women are referring to tho.
Porn sex is what you always hope real life sex will be but are always disappointed to find out that it isn't. It is also not sex the access to which is controlled by women.....one reason it is so popular.
Porn sex is what you always hope real life sex will be but are always disappointed to find out that it isn't. It is also not sex the access to which is controlled by women.....one reason it is so popular.
I have always hoped that my married life would be like a romantic novel. I too am disappointed.
In my fantasy, my husband's whole life is devoted to me and my needs. He is romantic, solves all my problems, has power and money and gets me anything I want.
Our sex is incredibly romantic and sweet. He gives me multiple orgasms within 5 mins of vj penetration.
Afterwards, we hold each other all night. When he wakes up his hair is not sticking up. And, he does not get angry when I buy a pair of Jimmy Choo's.
The problem is that in real life, men control everything, whereas, in the novels, men are more like women and understand us.
By the controlled access that disappoints you, do you mean access to a woman's body parts whenever you want? That is a dream most men have. Unfortunately, there is a sentient person with her own agenda connected to the body parts.
Give about 5 yrs someone will come up with an affordable sexbot. It will take off like the personal computer.
I go with the other poster amature porn is the best with every day people just getting it on.
I do think it funny because in non porn mvies they are doing the same faking they are doing in porn and many people think its so romantic but once you add in the penis,Breasts and Vagina and show what really goes on during sex people go off about it.
I was referring to women who say "My husband wants porn sex." What do THEY mean? Hot, messy, crazy, mokey-flucking???? Possibly silly positions? Props? Cum in places other than the vag? Is that what they don't want? Do they mean they'd like to just keep it "normal", vanilla, no change-ups, nice and tidy?
It's like I said. They aren't attracted to their man, their man wants sex, the woman rationalizes their unattractedness so she doesn't have to say she's unattracted, instead she says he's inappropriate in the type of sex he wants.
When I was old me, my wife used this. As it turned out, she just didn't respect me because I was being kinda wussy instead of taking charge.
I guess in a way it's appropriate. In porn, people just perform. And if the woman is accusing the man of wanting porn sex because she's not attracted to him, that's exactly what he's asking: he's asking her to just perform.
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Oh dear, that fact that people cannot tell the difference between real sex and porn sex is very sad to me.
Porn sex,
- has actors, women pretending to orgasm.
-Has sexual positions that are usually not possible without several hours and several takes.
-Many painful positions and positions most people are not capable of doing for more then a few minutes.
-Often sexual positions that provide barely any stimulation to the women. (Hate to tell you but if her clit isn't being stimulated it's very unlikely that she will O. Porn has falsely taught people that orgasms are really easy for women, and especially during anal :rolleyes
-Rough anal sex feels really good. (maybe to some) but not to most women, not to mention you can tear it and do internal damage that can be hard to fix, and I've read exerts from Drs they keep on set, to stitch women up who have been torn and really badly hurt during sex, which happens often.
-Women will cum from giving a blow job and should want to have sex in which the man just gets off for his sexual satisfaction only and often. (Then they wonder why women get turned off sex)
-Women should look like plastic barbies, with boob jobs and labioplasty and be 21 at the most and never change.
There is more then that, but Porn sex is like the cheap nasty junkfood of sex. I prefer mutually satisfying sex for some strange reason.
It sounds like she has a fantasy in mind but does not know what it is. I'd ask him for more specifics. Porn sex is so broad that it could mean literally anything. If you consider rule 34 of the internet. If you can think of it they have already made a porn of it. I would ask for more specifics than just porn sex.
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