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I see posts where women refer to H wanting to have "porn sex". And they insinuate that it's a bad thing, or at least something that they wouldn't be into. I know we are all different and like different things, but aside from the more extreme fetishes (which would also be a matter of preference), everything I've seen in porn seems normal to a good, married sex life.
I see posts where women refer to H wanting to have "porn sex". And they insinuate that it's a bad thing, or at least something that they wouldn't be into. I know we are all different and like different things, but aside from the more extreme fetishes (which would also be a matter of preference), everything I've seen in porn seems normal to a good, married sex life.
So what is porn sex vs. "regular sex"?
In the context you`re referring to I would consider "Porn Sex" to be completely lacking an emotional connection.
No holds barred and no fear of doing something your partner might not particularly like.
Sex for the sake of pure pleasure with no inhibitions.
With that said we have porn sex roughly once a week.
weird positions that seem incredibly uncomfortable with blood curdiling screams from the woman that has the cops at the house. Talking the nastiest things that can never came out of either one of your mouths, EVER!
Porn is performance. There is acting. It might be to make some fantasy look realistic. It might even be an attempt to look genuine. Porn is made with a crew and a set, and with those basic elements it isn't genuine and requires acting to convey an appearance of a couple that isn't distracted by the presence of other things and people, and who usually don't have the same things driving their sex that drive sex during sex between a couple.
So to the woman complaining about the man wanting porn sex, the fact is she's probably just rationalizing her not wanting sex with him. It probably has nothing to do with the kind of sex he wants, and the kind of sex he's asking for probably doesn't have to do with wanting to re-enact a performance - he just has an idea to explore.
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Porn is performance. There is acting. It might be to make some fantasy look realistic. It might even be an attempt to look genuine. Porn is made with a crew and a set, and with those basic elements it isn't genuine and requires acting to convey an appearance of a couple that isn't distracted by the presence of other things and people, and who usually don't have the same things driving their sex that drive sex during sex between a couple.
A little bit of a derail:
Has anyone ever watched porn outtakes?
Absolutely destroyed any illusion of porn I ever ever had as being remotely hot. There just isn't much hot about a director and an actress talking about a failed enema and the need to reshoot a scene because of fecal matter. Or a makeup artist removing chunks of vomit from an actresses face from a beej that hit a gag reflex wrong while porn stud stands next to her wanking and then once the chunks are gone, goes right back at it. Or or or watching a starlet go from dirty talking so into it BIGGEST ORGASM EVER then a cut, and watching her whip out her phone and text message nonchalantly then ACTION BIGGEST ORGASM EVER OMG.
Has anyone ever watched porn outtakes?
Absolutely destroyed any illusion of porn I ever ever had as being remotely hot. There just isn't much hot about a director and an actress talking about a failed enema and the need to reshoot a scene because of fecal matter. Or a makeup artist removing chunks of vomit from an actresses face from a beej that hit a gag reflex wrong while porn stud stands next to her wanking and then once the chunks are gone, goes right back at it. Or or or watching a starlet go from dirty talking so into it BIGGEST ORGASM EVER then a cut, and watching her whip out her phone and text message nonchalantly then ACTION BIGGEST ORGASM EVER OMG.
I do not ever want porn sex everrrrrr.
That is really disgusting, that's why I prefer to watch the amature porn, at least I know it's real.
Porn sex??? I think it's just something you have to be in the mood for, basically getting your sexual needs met, not much emotion. I guess it would require the woman to do lots of screaming as well.
I didn't really need as much info to break the illusion, trying to record us kind of served as enough of a reminder that there's a lot of movie production stuff that even goes into trying to make your own.
Okay honey, you just had your orgasm from oral and I'm rock hard from your oral and stroking during it, let me go get the tripod... Oh crums, the batteries are dead and there isn't enough memory on this card for more than 32 seconds... Why won't this focus? Oops... the light settings on the camera are set for outside and it's night time indoors and we don't have enough overhead lights... Stupid dog won't stop barking and the kid peed their bed.
Why won't it get hard now!?
Somehow we've managed to get all the stars in alignment a few times, and they're only for us but after all that work I treasure each one!
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The thread linked below is about as close as I get to my story, it has my posts about the point where I turned my marriage around and on the day my wife was planning to move out, instead we started a new beginning. I've been keeping my updates in this thead as well: http://talkaboutmarriage.com/general...-sex-life.html
In my humble opinion,
When a woman says she wants some " porn sex", what she is saying is that she wants sex over the " speed limit."
She wants to have sex till she cannot walk [ the morning after ].
That may include hair pulling, thrusting harder , faster and a small measure of discomfort.
Basically something to " rev up " their engines,so that everytime she remembers it ,she gets aroused..
Sometimes men fall into a certain type of routine and we somehow continue to fool ourselves and think " the sex is good."
Married women try not to hurt a man's ego and just go along saying ,yes " honey,it was good..." But really she is dis satisfied.
So usually when your wife aks for " porn sex" she means things getting a little boring,and she needs something more to excite her.
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Porn sex 
Awesome answers! I LOVE porn sex then! Only ours does have emotion, AND lasts LONG. 
Minus the animals....
