Re: Chat Line- cheating or not?
Yes. Sex chat lines, sexting, phone sex with anyone, emailing racy photos of self, and receiving racy photos from someone you correspond with, IMs.
Really, why is it so difficult to understand that seeking attention to meet needs, outside the marriage, it is cheating. When the LD is withholding sex, it is cheating...not cheating ON, but cheating OUT OF. When the HD spouse seeks it outside the marriage, it is cheating ON the other spouse.
If it isn't something you would do in front of your spouse, you shouldn't do it. If you would call these chat lines in front of your spouse, and he/she would be ok with it, by all means, do so. But if you know it would hurt them, why would you do that if you actually love them? That makes absolutely no sense.
Please note, I do not think it right for the LD spouse to withhold. I also think it is wrong for a LD spouse not to go get checked out and, if there is a viable solution to the problem... FIX IT! But if the LD spouse is intentionally withholding just to be spiteful, I would suggest separating, and likely divorcing. I know, harder with kids in the mix. But the kids can see when the parents are unhappy. They know. And staying in a marriage like that "for the kids" shows them the wrong marital dynamic...and I know of many who have resented their parents for that.
Sorry, got on a tangent. But, yes, I would view calling sex chat lines as cheating.
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