Re: Husband Says we dont have enough sex
I think Blanca is spot on.
By saying quickies don't count, what your husband might be really meaning, is that he knows the pair of you are capable of scaling the heights of ecstasy, but maybe you're both failing to ignite in the bedroom like you used to.
I too used to complain that we did not do it enough, and in the end my wife kept a log in her diary. It turned out we were doing it quite a lot! However, she was not desperately "hot" for me like she used to be when we first met, and I perceived this as a general lack of sex. But it was the quality that was lacking.
We have been together 20 years, and have now got a sex life that is better than when we started. I found two things needed to be addressed: Resentment in her due to my neglect of her early on in our marriage, and a general "good girl" attitude that had crept in.
The resentment I was able to help with by apologising when I realised my part in it. The other part, only she could deal with, but with time, it all melted away.