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And if he said no, I would never push the issue or bring it up ever again.
My husband is not circumcised. Even fresh out of the shower, his penis still has a smell and taste to it once the skin is rolled down. It makes oral sex very difficult for me.
On 2 separate occasions, his foreskin tore during sex. He was in pain and out of commission for a couple weeks each time.
Ontop of that, I am no longer comfortable giving him handjobs because if you roll the skin down too fast or there is not enough lubrication it hurts him. Even when I am oh so gentle, sometimes I would still hurt him...which has made me to not even want to touch his penis anymore for fear of hurting him.
So how do I go about asking him how he feels about getting it done? I don't want to hurt his feelings and I don't want to make him feel like he is inadequate.
I just feel that it would make our sex life better.
To me, this is akin to a husband wanting his wife to have a boob job. Yes, yes I know the surgeries aren't the same, but it's the principle.
My husband isn't circumcised and I would NEVER presume to ask him to do so. He is very clean and never has an odor - that isn't normal.
Have you tried using coconut oil? That's what I use for hand jobs - hubby LOVES it.
Maybe is a hygiene issue with the odor? Maybe my hubby doesn't clean it thoroughly enough? And if so, how do I go about asking him to "clean better" without hurting his feelings?
I know that a circumcised penis has no smell at all after its been cleaned. It would be just like smelling an arm. Where as the trapped moisture under the skin of an uncircumcised penis has a smell to it...and id imagine is a breeding ground for bacteria as well.
Is there a reason his foreskin tears? Has he been check for yeast infections (which would dry him out and make him smell funny). I was on a forum years and years ago where tearing and smells that won't go away are because of a yeast infection.
He should go get a check up and exhaust all other ideas before you ask him to get circ'd (which I imagine, would be incredibly painful at this point in his life).
You could shower with him and make a point of cleaning it very well for him, and then comment on it later, how fresh and clean it is or something. Although I agree about the yeast infection. The only time my hubby has had foreskin issues was when he had a yeast infection.
Is there a reason his foreskin tears? Has he been check for yeast infections (which would dry him out and make him smell funny). I was on a forum years and years ago where tearing and smells that won't go away are because of a yeast infection.
We just figured it was from being too rough. It has happened to his older brother too.
Could it be possible to have a constant yeast infection for 5 years? As far as I can remember he has always had a smell and weird taste during oral. But once I lick the smelly moistness off (I know eww) and it gets replaced by my saliva, the taste is gone.
We just figured it was from being too rough. It has happened to his older brother too.
Could it be possible to have a constant yeast infection for 5 years? As far as I can remember he has always had a smell and weird taste during oral. But once I lick the smelly moistness off (I know eww) and it gets replaced by my saliva, the taste is gone.
Hmm, well, I don't think it would hurt to go to the doc and ask. I do believe men can have yeast infections for quite a while without it bothering them too much (but I don't know for sure) or they could just be reoccuring yeast infections. Do the glans look normal or does it appear dryish at all? It may not even be one, but it's just an idea. Do you guys use condoms? Do you have issues with YI's?
Maybe change the soap, use unscented stuff like Cetophil, maybe the perfume in your regular soap irritates it and dries him out. And use the coconut oil for a lube for the hand jobs. And shower with him to make sure he actually pulls back his foreskin and actually washes the glans? Not everyone does a stellar job with personal hygiene. If all else fails, talk to him about it and see what he thinks.
Hmm, well, I don't think it would hurt to go to the doc and ask. I do believe men can have yeast infections for quite a while without it bothering them too much (but I don't know for sure) or they could just be reoccuring yeast infections. Do the glans look normal or does it appear dryish at all? It may not even be one, but it's just an idea. Do you guys use condoms? Do you have issues with YI's?
Maybe change the soap, use unscented stuff like Cetophil, maybe the perfume in your regular soap irritates it and dries him out. And use the coconut oil for a lube for the hand jobs. And shower with him to make sure he actually pulls back his foreskin and actually washes the glans? Not everyone does a stellar job with personal hygiene. If all else fails, talk to him about it and see what he thinks.
Hmm, well, I don't think it would hurt to go to the doc and ask. I do believe men can have yeast infections for quite a while without it bothering them too much (but I don't know for sure) or they could just be reoccuring yeast infections. Do the glans look normal or does it appear dryish at all? It may not even be one, but it's just an idea. Do you guys use condoms? Do you have issues with YI's?
Maybe change the soap, use unscented stuff like Cetophil, maybe the perfume in your regular soap irritates it and dries him out. And use the coconut oil for a lube for the hand jobs. And shower with him to make sure he actually pulls back his foreskin and actually washes the glans? Not everyone does a stellar job with personal hygiene. If all else fails, talk to him about it and see what he thinks.
I've googled it and tons of uncircumcised men seem to have this problem. They call it smegma.
His penis doesn't look dry at all. It looks normal and healthy and is the skin is super soft and supple.
We have a 3 year old so we usually swap shifts to shower before bed and we leave the house at different times I'm the morning so our morning showers are at different times. I guess I could try to schedule a shower after our son goes to sleep..but even then I think he would think of it as sexual and wouldn't focus on legitimately cleaning himself. So I don't think I would really find out how he washes himself on an everyday basis.
Just say hey hon, I have noticed an oder when giving you oral and Its kinda turns me off or makes me want to not do oral for ya. could you please make an extra effort to pull back your skin and clean better for me.
Just say hey hon, I have noticed an oder when giving you oral and Its kinda turns me off or makes me want to not do oral for ya. could you please make an extra effort to pull back your skin and clean better for me.
He needs to have a urologist check him out to make sure that the odor is actually coming from a yeast infection. Have you had problems with yeast infections, as well?
Foul odors may come from any number of problems so checking it out is necessary.
How would you feel if he asked you to undergo the female equivalent of the same procedure?
Hmmm, smegma is a normal secretion of the glans, or so I've been told, and shouldn't produce an odor. Smegma production isn't a result of being uncirc'd.
I like the idea of scheduling a shower with him. Also, if you use the coconut oil, you can slather that on before oral too. Unrefined organic coconut oil tastes yummy!!
Hmmm, smegma is a normal secretion of the glans, or so I've been told, and shouldn't produce an odor. Smegma production isn't a result of being uncirc'd.
I like the idea of scheduling a shower with him. Also, if you use the coconut oil, you can slather that on before oral too. Unrefined organic coconut oil tastes yummy!!
I read that smegma buildup under the skin can cause a smell. But that's just what I read. I really need an actual man's perspective.
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How to ask your husband to get circumcised?? 
