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If she's not into shaving, would she be more up for trimming? I don't shave my lady parts. I have monstrously sensitive skin which doesn't tolerate shaving well at all. But, I do maintain a nice trim - think nicely mown lawn. It's neat and tidy, easy to maintain, fast to do with proper trimmers, and doesn't result in ingrown hairs or rashes.
About 10 years into our relationship my husband suddenly started pitching a fit wanting me to go bare. I proposed that we both maintain the same level of grooming. After his own manscaping razor accident, my husband decided that he's fine with both of us just staying trimmed.
After his own manscaping razor accident, my husband decided that he's fine with both of us just staying trimmed.
A friend of mine got an ingrown hair on his sack after manscaping. He eventually got a marble-sized abscess in that area, that had to be packed/cleaned on a regular basis for days/weeks.
Eff that. No blades near my boys...I just trim it a bit.
Rowan, quid pro quo sounds fair. I'll try waxing as well. Shaving seemed terrible at first, but then became a "why didn't I do this before" kind of thing (especially on hot summer days). Especially since some people swear waxing is more efficient (even money-wise).
thunderstruck, that case is probably an outlier. It would be interesting to see what percentage of people experience such problems, but I'm sure the risk is low. Terrible story, but I'll continue shaving for the time being
Hundreds of millions of couples live without sex, why can't we?
that_girl, we're both northeastern European mixes, very light-skinned--nothing to predict the pubes. Mine are commensurate for a male of given genealogy and age, though.
Really this is such a big deal for you that you would rather not have any sex!!!!!!!
I taken my clean balls and going home no more sex for you!
billions of people for thousands of years never shaved anything and still enjoyed sex I think your a spoiled sniveling boy. who would rather bite off his nose to spite his face.
Really this is such a big deal for you that you would rather not have any sex!!!!!!!
I taken my clean balls and going home no more sex for you!
billions of people for thousands of years never shaved anything and still enjoyed sex I think your a spoiled sniveling boy. who would rather bite off his nose to spite his face.
You can always try to see if you can get your wife to get into a candle wax fetish. You can kill two birds with one stone with her getting off doing something new while you can get that hair removal that you crave by removing the dried wax afterwards...
billions of people for thousands of years never shaved anything and still enjoyed sex I think your a spoiled sniveling boy. who would rather bite off his nose to spite his face.
So be it. What's more--gasp!--some people can't get aroused enough to have sex with fat people. Shame on them.
I mentioned a Brazilian earlier - do you think she'd go for one? (that's where they wax the womans hair all off down there, not a certain nationality of male)
moco, that is true. everyone has their own taste and attraction. but what is it about the hair that you cant stand so much? just that its hair? it gets in your mouth? or you cant see your ladie through it?
my bf loves when im bare and i enjoy doing it for him and i like it myself. it makes me feel sexy. that is just me though! could she not be shaving it because she is doing it to spite you? and did she use to take care of it but now doesnt?
I mentioned a Brazilian earlier - do you think she'd go for one? (that's where they wax the womans hair all off down there, not a certain nationality of male)
Nope. Direct requests, gift certificates to spas, mentions that I'm pondering one for myself, nothing.
So be it. What's more--gasp!--some people can't get aroused enough to have sx with fat people. Shame on them.
I was going to pile on, and tell you to not fall on your sword over this "minor" thing, but...if this turns you off, you can't really force yourself to just ignore it. Still, choose your words wisely in dealing with this. If you get angry and blurt out something about her hairy butt...you may NEVER get anywhere near that butt again.
bkaydezz, she thinks it's purely optional. I don't know how much she's tried before we met, but I'm 99% certain she didn't remove hair before (apart from the crotch area so it wouldn't show through panties/swimsuits--a bit ridiculous considering it protrudes from behind if the piece of clothing is narrow enough).
Still, choose your words wisely in dealing with this. If you get angry and blurt out something about her hairy butt...you may NEVER get anywhere near that butt again.
Of course. We maintain a very caring relationship otherwise and keep up a very peaceful home for the kid. I've barely ever said anything hurtful to her, and never anything about physique.
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