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Every girlfriend I've had before was well-groomed (never a stray hair stuck between my teeth)--even if she didn't like receiving oral. After many years and partners, it just became ingrained in my subconsciousness that that's part of the modern look and feel--much like I wouldn't expect a woman to touch me if I had a bushy beard and didn't shower. Then I met my wife and fell in love before we had sex: surprised by the discovery of full-on pubic hair, but determined to overcome it. Years later, naturally, I couldn't suppress the aversion. Asked, got the "OK, at some point", but she dragged it out. I started shaving everything, tailbone to stomach, to set an example. Then asked more persistently. She shaved just the front and labia (never doing a good job), and said she was stopping there. Fair enough, but so stopped my desire for her. Going downtown with chin buried in hair is a mood-killer. After we had a kid, the hair grew even further out; and although she got used to shaving up front, her butt looks like a man's (I continue shaving and might upgrade to waxing).
I've read plenty of lecturing about choices, what's a natural adult to look like, etc., etc. The question here is: if I sometimes feel guilty for not being able to feel any desire for this woman, is the guilt justified?
Why don't you just offer your services to do it if it bugs you this much? Is she against that?
I would love it if my hubby would shave or wax me. Do you have any idea how hard it is to get into places down there you can't actually see?? If you do yourself you should know. Or send her to get a Brazilian and pay for it for her.
It's really too bad you feel that way. I hope you find a solution.
Brazilians are curiously painful, so I understand why a woman would not want to do that. Shaving is an excellent and painless method of hair removal. I shave my pubes and come out smoother than a baby's bottom. Have you tried telling your wife how much more sensations she will have if she has no pubic hair?
I'd say, if you can't accept her for who she is, and if its just killing you, divorce her and marry someone who meets your criteria of having a shaved well groomed cooch and butt!
so your mistake was to think she would eventually start keeping a clean garden.
me thinks you got to learn to live with this one. you own it ! you knew that it was going to be a problem but married her anyway.
an itchy a$$hole is not to fun.
I would try one more time to explain your feelings to her and ask if she could make an effort to groom her self how you like it and offer to do all the work(sounds like fun) but if she can't the drop it.
I actually don't mind a bit of hair. I have shaved the OH front & rear a few times, but still don't mind going down all around her when it grows back. Posted via Mobile Device
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Need if disgusted by wife's butt hair? 
