Jacklin

I have been married for 2 months, before marriage we didn't have sex. I was sure that my husband has experience in these matters, but he hasn't. He came very quickly every time (2-3 minutes), he is a terrible lover, what can I do?

MWD

Uh, give him experience?

-MWD

amillionpieces85

Was he a virgin?? And how long were you two together before marriage?

chiben

How old are you two? 2 months is too early to judge it. He might be inexperienced and that doesnt mean that he wont change.

DDC

Time for some more information. If you didn't have sex before marriage, why did you assume your husband would be a good lover?

Are you aware that there is more to sex than actual intercourse? Being a good lover is a lot more than not cumming in less than 2 minutes.

Tell us about foreplay. Tell us about oral sex. Tell us how many many orgasms you have before intercourse. Otherwise it's just a whole bunch of people injecting their two cents when we really have no idea what you're talking about.

costa200

Hmmm yeah... How did that plan turned out? Have you actually tried to teach him what you need?

Dan Carruthers

He seems to have Premature -Ejaculation,since he must be hasty and groping, owing being over excited seeing a nude Woman and the area.

He needs to have a control over his Psyche, Power and Rhythm in Penetration, Savvy in Love Gestures and thus Perfect enough Timing and Duration..

fredi

Do you know what? Now live with it happily.
Does sex have to be the most important? :>

Caribbean Man

To the OP,
No need to panic,it takes time.
The positive in this matter is that both of you are probably inexperienced so that you can both learn each other's body together.
Show him what you like,and vice versa.
Get some reliable information [ books etc].
Explore each other's sexuality.

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dixieangel

I was in a relationship that started that way but was able to change it with communication and time.

chillymorn

I think your lucky!

Time for a disscussion and be a frank as possible.


something along the lines of ....honey I really think your sexy but you I need alittle more than 3 mins. can we try to slow our love making down and drag it out as long as possible. I'd love to know what you like and what you do when you masterbate and I'd also like to share thoese things about me with you.

making love having sex should be fun and exciting generous and giving and selfish sometimes.


If hes embarrasses or having trouble opening up be patient and loving. start the ball rolling maybe even getting a how to book .

Little Bird

Agree with MWD - the pair of you have the rest of your lives together to makes yourselves amazing lovers for one another.

Give him suggestions. Guide him. Show him what you like.

Try mixing up your love making sessions - mixture of massages, kissing, oral, touching - don't go straight into banging eachother. Give him the opportunity to pleasure you in various ways in between - it will help him last longer overall.

I'm concerned as to why the pair of you hadn't discussed sex before. I think it's great when couples wait until marriage to have sex, but it's foolish to think that you can overlook discussing intimate issues before hand... We're not in a Disney movie, I'm afraid!

Best of luck, and try out my suggestion. Play some games, too. Teach him.

ScarletBegonias

My SO was this way too.VERY inexperienced. It was so much fun teaching him! He was a sexual blank slate and I love every minute of it. He's impressed by the simplest little sexy tricks.

These guys are usually eager to please,eager to learn,and once they get the hang of it you'll never find a better lover.

Be patient woman! Your patience will pay off;-)

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Ano

If anything, you have a bonus above other women!

You get to teach him everything you like!

Its hard to break old habits...and you are lucky that you don't have to worry about that!

Everything he will be doing to you down the road will be everything that drives you wild because he doesn't know any different!

Be patient with him.

mahike

Practice Practice Practice! and have fun! Watch a video, read a book and Practice Practice Practice!

Joking aside this is where you can build real communication. Talk with him. If you can talk about sex you can talk about anything