07-18-2012, 01:05 AM
Join Date: Jul 2012
| | What do I do with husband's low libido?
We are happily married for 6 years so far and we love each other so much!
But when it comes to sex, it's always me being the one with more desire than my husband. It's almost 90% of the times was me initiating it and also me "working on him" instead of any romantic man-on-top foreplay that we usually see in movies (that I desire so badly).
With my initiation, we get to do it 3-4 times a month (sometimes 5). But if I don't initiate, mostly we do it twice a month only (and is the no foreplay type). and he sounds like a relief when I was in my period.
He has a demanding job during the day (with intense computer works). This tired-from-work is used when we talk about lack of sex openly or when he tries to hint me no sex tonight. I understand it! well, I guess I only understand 80% of it. Because the thing is, he still gets home by 6 everyday,you know.
When I initiated it through gentle kissing and flirty touching but without really "work on him", he would 100% reject me by pretending didn't get the "message" and gently telling me it's time to sleep. It's really frustrating and humiliating!!! But whenever I do the "work on him" things, every single time, he greatly welcomed it and looked really excited.
I understand that man doesn't understand and care about women's feeling so much. But I thought a loving husband like mine would do better than that. The fact of his rejection and ignorance about my feelings/needs really hurts me. I have actually been trying to telling this to him and he would add one more time right after we talked about it, but after that, it all goes back to original.
Can someone give me some good advice of what to do with it? I am really frustrated and don't want this sex thing hurts our relationship.