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My H has never tried it. I have offered before and he has been very adamant that its a no. He believes that is am exit only and I also think he has hang ups thinking it is somehow "gay".
I have always been curious to try it, moreso now that its one of the only big things we have never explored together sexually.
He will let me touch and kiss his balls and sometimes his perineum, but if I dare get too close to the back door he yanks me away.
So guys - how did you end up getting the nerve to try it? Did you ever have hang ups about it and got over them? Did you come up with the idea or did your partner? Are there any guys on this board who share my H's sentiment of no way, no how?
I would never beg him to do this if he really didn't want to. I just thought it might be a fun way to spice things up and I am curious if he might enjoy it if he would just be a little more open minded about it.
He has also had the doctor speak to him about one day getting a prostate exam and this idea freaks him out to the point of not wanting to go back to the doctor. I don't exactly like getting an exam there either (and I had to have a couple after childbirth) but I have to admit that having done anal play in the bedroom eased my fears a lot. Posted via Mobile Device
Lots of guys on here are/were nice guys, maybe nice guys just like it up the butt? I certainly don't mind a finger or two pushing on my prostrate if everything's all clean in there atleast.
What's the big deal. Eventually you're going to get to the point in your life where you have no shame and you wake up on general rounds as a supervisor yanks off the sheet so that 8 tiny Filipino women interns get first hand experience with a Foley catheter or some kind fiber optic tool used to cut polyps off your colon. After than anyone in the room who HASN'T shoved something into my penis or rectum is the exception. Feel free, it's a party down there.
I do it for my husband. He didn't like the idea at first and told me "no way." I guess I wore him down and convinced him how much he would like it. Actually, it took a few months of me bringing it up. I didn't apply any pressure. I just kept teasing him. I told him the story of how I first heard about it and how that guy responded. Then, I told him about doing it for a former boyfriend and how he responded. What I was trying to do was make him jealous and curious at the same - jealous of the pleasure that other men experienced and curious to know if he could experience that pleasure too. I would just kind of sing "You'll reallyyy liiiike iiiiiit" in a teasing kind of way. I knew I finally got through to him when he didn't stop me from doing it. We didn't discuss it prior for me to get the go ahead. I just went ahead and did it figuring if he didn't want me to, he would stop me. But he didn't stop me.......and he still doesn't stop me. Gosh I love doing that for him!
Hmm the just doing is a great idea.... he does it to me all the time anyway so I should return the favor... lol. Dunno about kag but I always make the mistake of bringing it up before trying lol. Posted via Mobile Device
My H has never tried it. I have offered before and he has been very adamant that its a no. He believes that is am exit only and I also think he has hang ups thinking it is somehow "gay".
I have always been curious to try it, moreso now that its one of the only big things we have never explored together sexually.
He will let me touch and kiss his balls and sometimes his perineum, but if I dare get too close to the back door he yanks me away.
So guys - how did you end up getting the nerve to try it? Did you ever have hang ups about it and got over them? Did you come up with the idea or did your partner? Are there any guys on this board who share my H's sentiment of no way, no how?
I would never beg him to do this if he really didn't want to. I just thought it might be a fun way to spice things up and I am curious if he might enjoy it if he would just be a little more open minded about it.
He has also had the doctor speak to him about one day getting a prostate exam and this idea freaks him out to the point of not wanting to go back to the doctor. I don't exactly like getting an exam there either (and I had to have a couple after childbirth) but I have to admit that having done anal play in the bedroom eased my fears a lot. Posted via Mobile Device
Im a big fan of it myself. so far shes only put the tip of her finger in and presses against it and depresses rapidly. it makes the orgasm that more intense. i love it. if she would cut her nails id like her to put her finger inside a little more.
The idea was mine to try it. some old gf did it to me. i only tried it cause she did it to some other guy and i wasn't going to let myself get one-upped.
i thought my wife would never do it. so i brought it up one night and slowly worked her up to it.
Its makes the orgasm that much more intense. he's missing out. but if he's hung up on it than oh well.
My biggest fear was the cleanliness aspect. Which I know is silly, because I like doing that to her. But there you have it.
With my GF, we decided together to explore this. She has a desire to "rock my socks off", and what the hell, I'm game! We tried a gloved finger, it was ok, but nothing to write home about. The a prostate/g-spot toy. That one was better, athough she had issues co-ordinating the BJ with the toy movement, so I would end up using the toy as she did the BJ. And finally, she bought me a small vibrating butt plug. It was nice that it stayed in place without assistance, but it didn't do as much as the toy for me. We've also tried an ungloved finger, but I'm pretty uncomfortable about her nails.
I don't think we've yet "rocked my socks off"... But we're still working on it! Maybe someday we'll do some serious research. The toy seemed to be the closest... It would give me an orgasm when I didn't even think I could get it up. But other than that, it didn't feel any better, really... It just made it happen.
wow, I get if you don't wish to try a certain sex act but to refuse a prostrate exam is idiotic when you consider that prostrate cancer is one of the most treatable cancers when caught early
we have been learning about this not sure we've "hit the spot" exactly yet but I think I'm getting close.
We bought several different toys to try with special curves that are supposed to get the spot without too much effort, haven't quite gotten the hang of those yet.
it's definitely a skill you have to learn and practice.
Nope,never liked it.
Just touch me there during sex / lovemaking and I loose my erection.
Heard about people kissing it ,licking it ,sticking fingers in it...
Big turn OFF for me.
my DH was totally opposed to any stimulation of himself right up until he decided he really wanted to try Anal Sex (on me) and the deal was struck: Yes we can do it but it's gonna be you first. :-D
Famous last words, We drank a bottle of wine, had a nice back rub with massage oil after a long hot shower (much discussion about how and what etc took place so we all had the game plan) and then we gave it whirl. And wouldn't you know it, he came like a freight train. I mean like yelling and shooting and shaking ... and, well, you get the picture.
There just was no denying it after that. LOL since then we have been experimenting and we have discovered lo and behold we both dig the a@@ action (giving and receiving and vice versa.) Who knew?? New tricks after 15 years. The fun never ends I guess.
my DH was totally opposed to any stimulation of himself right up until he decided he really wanted to try Anal Sex (on me) and the deal was struck: Yes we can do it but it's gonna be you first. :-D
Famous last words, We drank a bottle of wine, had a nice back rub with massage oil after a long hot shower (much discussion about how and what etc took place so we all had the game plan) and then we gave it whirl. And wouldn't you know it, he came like a freight train. I mean like yelling and shooting and shaking ... and, well, you get the picture.
There just was no denying it after that. LOL since then we have been experimenting and we have discovered lo and behold we both dig the a@@ action (giving and receiving and vice versa.) Who knew?? New tricks after 15 years. The fun never ends I guess.
LOL! Omg this had me laughing. I might try the bottle of wine trick. Too bad I already let him do it to me....the whole "why buy the cow" thing. Dang. Posted via Mobile Device
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We tried a gloved finger, it was ok, but nothing to write home about. The a prostate/g-spot toy. That one was better, athough she had issues co-ordinating the BJ with the toy movement, so I would end up using the toy as she did the BJ. And finally, she bought me a small vibrating butt plug. It was nice that it stayed in place without assistance, but it didn't do as much as the toy for me. We've also tried an ungloved finger, but I'm pretty uncomfortable about her nails. 
