And why is your libido tied into your husband? What is the reason you have "natural chemistry" with him in the first place? Is it more than a pure sexual attraction?
I guess it all depends on what you define as "services." For me chemistry is more than my husband's penis, his perfect hands, or even his warm smile. When we were dating my husband courted me, flirted with me, uplifted me, and generally made me feel good about myself. I admired him as a person, and I still do. And YES he did things for me too. If I was having a bad day, he did what he could to help me then, and he does what he can to help me now. Now (because it's where we are in life with small children) that often means helping with household duties and kids.
You've never needed anything more "than your desire to have sex?" I think many women (at least many of the women that I know) are a little more complicated than that. Desire (for many women and men) involves more than pure sexual libido. Forgive me if I'm being, er, obtuse.
Yeah, it's pretty simple, I like sex & I don't use it as a weapon/game/ploy.
I don't "need" my husband to jump through hoops, to get me aroused, him being him is all it takes.
He's as Alpha as they come, maybe being married to an Alpha is what does it for me, who knows, but I do know, it doesn't matter one bit to me whether or not he takes the trash out, does the dishes, I'm going to have sex with him because I want to have sex.
Now, if that's something you can't understand, that's on you, you see I don't have hang ups when it comes to my sexuality, my libido is not tied into having to have a "perfect storm" of my neediness assuaged before I get down.
Maybe this is why you can't understand that for some, sex is very important, because they feel the pure physical & biological need for sex, while you're the type who needs the star to align perfectly before you decide to have sex.
It is what it is.
That's the difference, I don't "decide" to have sex, I HAVE sex because I WANT to have sex, I'm driven to want to fck my husband.
Can't get more simple than that.