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I'm not sure even how to ask this question. For years my wife didn't give me BJ's. She has TMJ pretty bad for one thing and for another I kept telling myself they weren't really that important given that otherwise we have a very good sex life. After I found this forum a noted the problems couples have with BJ's (some wives love to do it, some are okay with it, some hate it.) I spoke with my wife and told her I really felt that I would like them again.
She started giving them to me again and has gotten quite good and is starting to enjoy giving them to me. But here is where the question comes in and it's something we both don't quite understand. She'll give me a GREAT BJ, but the next day I feel edgy, almost grumpy. I feel disconnected and distant from her. Then after we have normal vaginal sex I feel like my brain is normal again.
I'm afraid I have some sort of brain allergy to BJ's.
I'm not sure even how to ask this question. For years my wife didn't give me BJ's. She has TMJ pretty bad for one thing and for another I kept telling myself they weren't really that important given that otherwise we have a very good sex life. After I found this forum a noted the problems couples have with BJ's (some wives love to do it, some are okay with it, some hate it.) I spoke with my wife and told her I really felt that I would like them again.
She started giving them to me again and has gotten quite good and is starting to enjoy giving them to me. But here is where the question comes in and it's something we both don't quite understand. She'll give me a GREAT BJ, but the next day I feel edgy, almost grumpy. I feel disconnected and distant from her. Then after we have normal vaginal sex I feel like my brain is normal again.
I'm afraid I have some sort of brain allergy to BJ's.
Anyone else ever experience something similar?
have you ever in the past had an 'idea' of the 'type' of woman who does that and didnt like that type of woman?
I cannot wrap my head around this at all! The day after a bj I'm in a euphoria. Now I did have times when she was against finishing the job that I would be grumpy. Is she doing something, or refusing to do something that you really want? Do you want to switch to sex but she wants to finish the job? Or vice versa?
You get grumpy from blowjobs???....I can count the times on one hand the times I got one during my entire marriage..what's there to be grumpy about if your getting head?
Your Body Agenda is wanting you to flood her V with battle hardened little swimmers to secure your turf. If its been three days your last load is long gone and you really do need to send in reinforcements.
How did you come to recognize this problem? Have you spoken to your wife about it? I am sure she has noticed as well... Posted via Mobile Device
Oh yeah, she has noticed. She brought it up. I agree this has to be mental in some way. I just don't understand why the weirdness doesn't start until the next day. I know a lot of guys probably think I'm nuts.
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Not your average BJ question 
