1. Anal should never be a spur of the moment thing, especially if it is your first time. Much planning and talking with your partner about this has to be done if the first experience is to be pleasureable.
2. When you have decided to do anal, make sure you do not feel the need to go to the washroom. Anal sex after a particularly runny or particularly solid bowel movement is best. If you try it after a somewhat soft bowel movement, your odds of a mess are a little more likely. If there is a bit of a mess after a few minutes of anal, just go to the washroom and do a bowel movement... A more runny movement after a few minutes of anal is more likely and will clean you right up...
3. Enema's can do a good job in cleaning the area... Also of note is that feces is not stored in the lower anal area. It is stored above another sphincter about 10 or so inches above the anus. So a long period of anal can be done with no problem or mess...
4. Anal forelay is a good idea especially if it your first time. If it is your first time, (as like in vaginal sex) there is a chance it could hurt a little the first time as your anus is not used to this kind of stimulation and is tight the way your vagina was the first time. The good news is that the anus sphincter is a muscle and can stretch as if you were doing exercises, and the more you exercise the more acustomed this muscle will be to the activity. That being said, this muscle will not loosen... It will simply become more used to the kind of simulation involved in anal sex.
Analingus and Circular massage (with your fingers or a vibrator) with lube, as well as some well lubed finger insertion are some really good and fun anal foreplay activities.
5. Relax. Relax. Relax. The anus needs to be relaxed and you need to be in the mindset that you are going to enjoy anal. If you aren't in this mindset and are worried that it will hurt, your anus will tighten up... And it will hurt. But this can and should be painless even the first time. Anal is a very enjoyable act...
6. Lube, Lube, Lube. You need to have good (not the cheap stuff) lube in order to do anal... And a lot of it. My recomendation is ASTROGLIDE (at least for the initial penetration and the first several minutes) as it has an amazing consistancy (almost like precum) so it feels very natural, and is also super slick. It is also water soluable, which won't break down a condom as oil based lubes will. ASTROGLIDE is also readily accesable and can be bought at any drugstore, in the same section as the condoms...
7. Reapplying the lube... You will need to use more lube as the motion tends to use up the lube. Some complain of "burn" with excessive lube... Some have no problem using a ton of it. If you do notice a little burning sensation with the application of more lube, this is where the expensive quality lube comes in. Pjur or Eros (made by the same company) and Pink are expensive brands that are hypoalergenic and DO NOT cause a burning sensation. These lubes are great for using for additional applications as they have no burn, but I do not recomend them for intial penetration as they are not very thick (slick, gooey) and are not as good as ASTROGLIDE or WET for initial penetration...
8. Penetration. Go slow to start off and listen to what your partner is telling you... You may want to make little circles around the anus with your penis as a little forplay to loosen your partner up and get them in the mood. Let them enjoy them erotic sensation of the anal stimulation before that actual insertion. Proceed to insert your penis slowly; stop with just the head of the penis in if it is not sliding right in and ask you partner how it feels. You may need to apply more lube at this point. After well lubed, proceed inserting slowly. Some good first time positions are Doggy, Mish with your partner holding their legs to their chest, and on the side as it allows your partner to relax and just take the penis in.
9. Thrust slowly when starting off. If you get to excited and just start pounding away like they do in the pornos, then you run the risk of hurting your partner and having them not want to ever do anal again with you. Remember, that first time anal has to be done with as much care as first time vaginal. Keep the mindset that you are with a virgin again. Be very gentle...
10. Have fun. Anal sex is a very fun and amazingly enjoyable act for both partners. Women have a gland very similar to the male prostrate, which when stimulated can produce mega orgasms. Stimulate her clit while you are doing anal and experiment with different positions. Done correctly with care, anal sex can and should add a healthly variety to a couple's sex lives to make it richer and less routine experience. Have Fun…
When my H had an affair he claimed to have anal sex with the OW a few times. ( she still lives across the street from us) Apparently at the park, our shed and a neighbors kitchen. Anyway he claims they didn't use any lubricants. To me something just doesn't sit right. I know it's possible but I'm just wondering if you think he's lying. To me I would think they would have used something so he must have know what was going to take place and not like he claims that she just accidently ran into him to the park ect, ect.. I've tried it a few times with him since but can't image not using anything at all.
When my H had an affair he claimed to have anal sex with the OW a few times. ( she still lives across the street from us) Apparently at the park, our shed and a neighbors kitchen. Anyway he claims they didn't use any lubricants. To me something just doesn't sit right. I know it's possible but I'm just wondering if you think he's lying. To me I would think they would have used something so he must have know what was going to take place and not like he claims that she just accidently ran into him to the park ect, ect.. I've tried it a few times with him since but can't image not using anything at all.
yes you are right..Anal sex can be dangerous without using professional methods..The penis can damage anus so badly without lubricant..The couples should apply all those methods that I mentioned above..Otherwise there is only danger and pain in Anal sex
Erol: out of curiosity, what are your qualifications? Are you merely sharing what you've learned from personal experience or do you have any expertise in the areas that you are offering advice "articles" on?
Erol: out of curiosity, what are your qualifications? Are you merely sharing what you've learned from personal experience or do you have any expertise in the areas that you are offering advice "articles" on?
Generally I merely share what I have learned from my personal experiences.. and I am still studying on women's anotomy and marriage therapy..
We NEVER use store bought lube for anal. Lots of foreplay, some traditional sex and there is never a need for extra lube. So, yeah, its possible that the occurences were not planned, Fairy. Ours never are...LOL...and to me, all the planning would just take some of the fun out of it anyways.
The times I have had anal with my wife, I put it her anus right after cuming in her vagina, I am about as slippery as I can be with her natural lube and my cum. It slips right in. Plus, I wait a tad to get a little bit soft, not huge and rock hard, this makes it easier on her at first, but I grow back big and hard after penetrating her, this makes her a bit anxious in a very erotic way. She says "it hurts so good"
10 golden rules for perfect anal sex
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