Ok my husband has this same idea, that he wants to constantly touch my boobs.
Personally, I hate it, outside of sex.
It just feels degrading, and uncomfortable. I don't walk by him and grab his balls everytime I pass him. I find it uncomfortable to constantly be touched there. It's like being treated like a sex object 24/7.
Also, I dont like any part of my body to be treated like a play toy for his amusement, which is kind of what it feels like when he won't lay off. Sort of like a little boy pawing at my boobs in fascination - I guess a woman might feel like a grown man should have more self control? I don't know. It's hard to explain.
Also, if you have done this constantly, you may have created the negative association in her yourself. I think you need to back up and stop for awhile and let her get over the negative feelings.
So, you're saying that your body should be off-limits to your husband except for sexual purposes. All that I have seen in response to this thread so far is:
"you're selfish for wanting your wife to be intimate with you (outside of sex)"
"you're not trying hard enough to treat her like a 'Child', 'Friend', or a fabled 'unicorn'"
Because I find my wife attractive (god forbid!), and enjoy to sometimes gently rest my hand on her breast at night in bed while innocently cuddling, I would be 'like a little boy pawing at your boobs'?
Something is out of whack there. In my mind, there needs to be compromise. In my original post, I mentioned that I severely changed my behavior soon
into our relationship so that I didn't continue to 'paw at her boobies in fascination'. This was years ago.
Since then, I've further modified my behavior to make her happy. I'm sorry, but I'm feeling a little frustration at the lack of compromise. If my wife enjoyed playing with my toes or feet (yes... I don't like having my feet messed with much), or if it turned her on in a sexual setting, GO TO TOWN ON THEM. I'll take one for the team so that she's happy - thats compromise.
If I constantly 'pawed at her boobs', yes, I would see a problem *looking at you dude who keeps saying I have a fetish*. But I don't. I am completely hands off, then sometimes
, but not all the time, I like to cuddle up next to her in bed and rest my hand on her chest.
I just think there needs to be compromise in a marriage. So far, on this front, I have been the one to give way. I guess I should completely change who I am and pretend that I hate breasts. Fall in line with the 'better half', do what you're told, thats all I'm seeing here so far...