Re: Wife's issues with sex
I would as you get more comfortable with each other approach the abuse subject, she may not need counseling if she just feels she can tell someone and confide in you, when she tells, ask her if she ever told anyone, you may find that she hasn't. IF that is the case, you may suggest counseling, but for me, just being able to tell my husband, and him not judge me, and still love me, and understand, and be gentle and help me re-learn things, and not pressure me with a certain thing that was a trigger, let me go at my own pace, but also research together ways to increase our intimacy etc, I was good after that, just listening was huge, the emotional connection was stronger, etc. I don't know how the end of my post last night disappeared but it did.... wanted to make sure that part got through! (And I didn't need counseling for it) I wouldn't go at her with suggesting counseling right off that bat, that could totally backfire, she already started to open up.... build on that, using the top 5 needs... some of hers are afffection and conversation, she can conversate with you the history, and you can provide the affection and comfort for her to let it out.