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It would bother me. To the point that I would pull out immediately and ask her WTF her problem was.
If you're okay with it, then just keep pumping. I can't help but feel it's disrespectful. But I would need to know a bit more about your sex life to understand your situation.
Is she eager to have sex with you, or do you have to ask often (or always)? Do you have sex regularly? Is she enthusiastic during sex? Are you athletic/built, or are you big-boned (fat)?
A. It feels good and I just love to relax and enjoy
B. Sometimes I've found things that bother me, and will immediately cause me distress (something fallen over, car lights through the blinds, a fly or mosquito flying around, a spider on the wall) anything out of the ordinary would tend to get in the way.
Unfortunately I can't always shut my brain off, and can become distracted, even if I'm having the most terrific time. Sometimes anxiety will creep in, and would possibly destroy my mood. If I close my eyes, I can just focus on the feelings and sounds.
That's just the way I am though. Everyone is different. Maybe she's embarrassed about seeing the O face or seeing you watch her makes her uncomfortable? Ask her, she'll be able to tell you if it's worth worrying over.
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What's wrong with closing your eyes during sex? If I feel like closing my eyes, I do. If I feel like having them open, I do. Is there supposed to be some deep reason not to close them?
If she's most comfortable that way you would probably want to leave that preference alone. But if you do want her to make eye contact you could ask her as a favor to you and see if she responds. Just don't expect it all the time, a compromise is a compromise, otherwise it's giving in and giving up your own preference which is uncool as each person should ideally bring something to the table, but also get their fill as well. I think it's better to discuss it outside of the bedroom and in a context that makes it something that she can do for you sometimes, versus something she does for herself all the time, that is hurtful or offensive to you.
I close my eyes quite often. Mostly to try to block out the kids calling thru the door... The times I DO open my eyes, tho, I often notice my husband's eyes are closed. It doesn't bother me. But I agree with the others... it bothers you. Why?
Sometimes it's nice to FEEL things without seeing them. Sometimes it's nice to see them too. I have to have my eyes open when he's on top. His torso turns me on
I appreciate the replies (LOL'd at a few of them). I guess a little background info would help. Our sex life is actually pretty decent (1-3/per week). this is just something I have noticed recently. The reason this is slightly bothersome to me is, I worry she is possibly not attracted to me/fantasising about other men. I did bring it up to her once and she was a little defensive so I figured it best just to not press the issue. Your replies have helped- thanks
My wife has told me that sometimes she needs to concentrate on what she's feeling in order to be able to have an orgasm. Shutting her eyes allows her to focus.
She also shuts her eyes when she's listening to music that really moves her.
Perhaps your wife is the same.
Now, if she starts snoring, you should be worried and bothered.
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my wife closes her eyes during sex 
