If the vow is to forsake all others, the inverse is "for he sake of one". This is a sexual/emotional vow. The two parties have made vows to:
A. Not sleep with, or romantically entangle with, other parties.
B. Provide sexual and romantic/emotional gratification solely to one another.
Assuming that the denied spouse is upholding the tenants of matrimony, and the witholding spouse is chronically denying them adequate sexual gratification regardless, is not the withholding spouse breaking their marriage vows, and in essence shattering the marriage?
THIS HAS BEEN NOTED by others especially on the web but not expressed in book or in public I am aware of. That being said I believe there are things in a marriage much worse than adultry that everyone accepts as well just the way she or he is, say what? THIS PARAGRAPH BY COOKIE 99
And if then the denied spouse turns to adultery for an outlet, is not the marriage already broken due to the actions of the withholding spouse?
Obviously one should divorce before lying with others. But under this circumstance who do you believe broke the vows first: the witholder or the adulterer?
Again there are other items at least as bad as adultry and it is not generally viewed as reasons for divorce but yes these things brake the mariage. Of note no where in public has it been noted of any vow to have or not have sex in a marriage that I heard, just horror stories and hope and encouragement it will be fullfilling. The bible says not to deprive each other and I think something about not causing another to sin (adultry) I think.
It seems to me that sex was designed for marriage with the vows to keep families together not have sex because you are married. So when sex is bad the marrige usually suffers and or comes apart. You think?
For me there is too much emphasis on adultry and too little on other things. Because like stated here sexless marriage like other issues in a marriage render it a meaningless yoking. However because of unique situations there is the cases where a spouse does not want or need sex. I assume this is the better or worse case where it is worse.
The providing sex as in duty sex seems ridiculous to me as meeting the obligation of not depriving the other. That kind of sex is menaingless and not rewarding and as demening as no sex at all in my opinion.
So it seems a sexless marriage is just that you lose and are the proud owner of the short end of the limp stick.
The other issue is when single we are to by biblical standards be content without sex and not sin, and then with an I do turned loose with what was sin.
Fullfillment of love sex and marriage for many of us is and has worse odds than vegas by a very long shot. For most of us marriage sex stinks and very little we can do about it or is there?