08-07-2012, 10:04 AM
Join Date: Jun 2012
| | Re: Saying No to Sex Very Frustrated
Yep, been there, done that.
First things first, follow what Toffer says, which it sounds like you are. It is perfectly ok to say no to her needs, just don't turn it into a tit for tat. That will get you nowhere.
But if you honestly don't feel like going for a bike ride or walk or whatever, tell her so. I mean, she is telling you when she doesn't feel like sex, why can't you tell her when you don't feel like doing something with her?
I'd also not mention the lack of sex issue when she asks you why you aren't doing as mch with her anymore. And she will ask. Try to keep them seperate. Discuss the sex issue seperately as well and explain how sex can bring you closer and make you feel more connected to her.