Cee Paul

Right now if and when my wife and I have sex there HAS to be oils or lubricants involved or I'm not allowed in, but with my ex and also a past girlfriend all it took was making out and fondling their breasts for about 5-10 minutes and they were......wet and ready(without lube).

So in a perfect world all women would be able to do this and just curious why it's not more common?

wiigirl

All women are built differently.....accept that. :P


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Hopefull363

Some women's breasts are more sensitive than others. Try different types of foreplay with your wife. Maybe oral. My husband and I never use lubs. There are some times in the month when I'm dryer than usual do to hormones. If I get dry husband goes back down. If husband loses hardness I go back down. It's a give and take.

MrsOldNews

Ive never needed lubes. However most of my past sexual partners understood good foreplay leads to good sex . I dont get turned on AT ALL having my breasts fondled. They've never had much feeling anyway unless it's thst time of the month, then they're to sore and sensitive to touch.

Deejo

Women are different.

Pleasure or level of excitement is not always an indicator.

Although usually, there is a threshold, which once you get there leads to more moisture production.

But, in my marriage and a few relationships since, lube is required.

Do your research. There are water based and silicone based.

With my ex, we had our best success with silicone based.

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Ano

I only use lube for anal.

Its so greasy and oily and makes it soo wet that it takes some of the sensation away for me.

Most of the time we use a little spit to get it in and that does the trick without flooding me like lube does.

Jellybeans

Now you've got me wondering -- for most women, is it more common to need to use the lube OR is it more common to have that natural wetness?

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Numb in Ohio

At the beginning I am usually the "wet n ready".. but about half way through I dry up... not sure if this is more physical or mental... I don't like it to drag on for an hour or more... I get bored.

Dr. Rockstar

Not to brag, but my wife and I have always used lube. We have to because if we don't, penetration becomes physically painful. I have never thought of need for lube as any kind of rejection or insult.

To put it another way... just the fact that she wants lube means that she wants sex. And that's the most important thing, right?

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waiwera

For me it seems to depend on the time of the month, the alignment of the planets... and my mood.

Eco

Some women I've been with were pretty much wet all the time - even before foreplay, while others need lots of help getting and/or staying wet. Some have thicker natural lube, others have more watery lube (cervical mucus is different at different phases of her cycle too) They taste different, they feel different, they are just pretty different!

GinnyTonia

OP, is your wife on birth control pills?
I normally spend at least half of my day in some degree of arousal, complete with wetness. But when taking birth control, I need LOTS of foreplay to get wet.
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SimplyAmorous

I've hardly ever needed it...the only time I even recall having any K-Y in our house -was when we 1st married & he couldn't get it in....we needed ALL the help we could get!

But after that...hadn't touched the stuff -or even thought about it - till like 3 yrs ago when I decided to spice the sex life up & got some "flavored" lubes for oral - then after my drive calmed ... still wanted to keep the frequency going....so I found I need it now & then, but still pretty rare. I wasn't ready to go go go anymore - a little frustrating, but when he IS ready- some of those mornings... I'm not missing that opportunity !

I've never taken hormonal birth control so maybe this is why. We only used condoms & the rhythm method -for 19yrs -then got the non-hormonal IUD.

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KremerOtha

Some women's breasts are more sensitive than others

Caribbean Man

My wife doesn't need any lube .
What I have noticed about her though,is that sometimes she is wetter than other times ,which I equate with her level of arousal.

And even though I agree that all women are different , I am tempted to think that sometimes it all depends on her level of attraction and arousal.
Its a mental thing IMO.

I say this because of my past and present experience.
Women talk and they do compare.

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