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We always use a vibrator during sex as part of foreplay. In fact, we basically won't have sex without it. I don't mind as much because before the vibrator, she didn't feel like doing it. I also get lazy doing too much foreplay and prefer quickies. She also uses it during intercourse because she can't orgasm through vaginal stimulation alone. It serves its purpose well.
My wife is too sensitive to use an external vibrator. But she seems to like the internal g-spot type. I'm turned on by it. And no matter what preliminaries or resulting orgasms, she always ends up saying "I need you!" and demanding the real thing.
Yes we use them. The most common use is during sex, I cannot O without clit stimulation. I can bring myself to O at the exact same time H does if I use a vibrator at the same time. He really enjoys the sensation so he has never once complained. H has been active in selecting the toy collection that we currently own. I use the toys most often with him, second in line is using them when he's tapped out for the night and I still need one more O to get me off the edge, in that case he usually kisses me or just watches the show while I use it on myself. Third is me using it alone when he's not there, but that is very rare.
Someone mentioned desensitizing yourself - yes, it can happen and yes its reversible. I got myself in that predicament during a time when I was single and went cold turkey without using a vibrator for about 2-3 months and was eventually able to lose the need for it. Its still 100% the fastest and easiest way for me to O, but its nicer not to NEED it to O. Posted via Mobile Device
LOL this is a good thread.
My last gyno visit... dr also gives a handout on vibrators and genital "health". Seems he has seen an increase in bladder and UTI infections. Just the anatomy of a woman's body... and too much stimulation and "vibrating" of bacteria into the eurethra (which is right by the clitoris) so be sure to wash those toys, AND wipe the area first with a baby wipe or other product. And wash your hands too
I stood there and read it... and nodded and said thanks. I didn't know all that. And I certainly didn't admit to him what I was thinking "oh thank goodness you told me this".
They are wonderful inventions. So is finding ways to get H out of the house on a regular basis so I can enjoy!!!
LOL this is a good thread.
My last gyno visit... dr also gives a handout on vibrators and genital "health". Seems he has seen an increase in bladder and UTI infections. Just the anatomy of a woman's body... and too much stimulation and "vibrating" of bacteria into the eurethra (which is right by the clitoris) so be sure to wash those toys, AND wipe the area first with a baby wipe or other product. And wash your hands too
I stood there and read it... and nodded and said thanks. I didn't know all that. And I certainly didn't admit to him what I was thinking "oh thank goodness you told me this".
They are wonderful inventions. So is finding ways to get H out of the house on a regular basis so I can enjoy!!!
Why not into the bedroom? Let us guys have some fun too!!!
My wife & i talked about it years ago and she was neither here nor there with it.
Her biggest O's are most time from penetration from behind and
" serious pounding."
Back then she said that as long as I am in bed she don't need it.
I tried to convince her , because of something I had read on Dr. Ruth's website.
But she wasn't really interested.
Vibrators are a regular part of our love play. I LOVE watching and hearing her pleasure herself with one. There are also positions we use that leaves her hands free to stimulate her clit with one. Why would any guy have a problem with it? My #1 goal is to see that she is sexually satisfied and if a vibe helps...great!
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The marriage bed must be a place of mutuality—the husband seeking to satisfy his wife, the wife seeking to satisfy her husband. Marriage is not a place to "stand up for your rights." Marriage is a decision to serve the other, whether in bed or out. 1 Corinthians 7:2 (The Message)
We recently bough one. I call it 'Big Pink D***'. It took 24 years for me to realise it is not a perversion to use one. H says he enjoys using it as part of our foreplay.
The hardest part is teaching H how to use it on me, he gets a bit enthusiastic & for me, the vibration needs to be light against the clit.
When he has recovered from his monster man flu, we shall resume with it again, I will persist until he gets it.
About 5 weeks ago I discovered we were having marital problems from accidentally finding porn on my wife's phone while fixing a problem for her. One of the first things I did was go and pick up a "toy" before I brought up the question of the porn to her.
All I have to say is some of our problems are being worked out due to the introduction of the "toy". Intimacy has gone from 15-20 mins once or twice a month b4 the kids got up, to getting the kids to bed early and spending a couple of hours together 2-3 times a week. It has had major effects for both of us and I wish I would have got one 5-6 years ago when I first started thinking about it. It's quite possible that if I would have things may not have gotten as sour as they did to lead to our marital issues.
Truth is, the happier I can make her, the happier I am. Win-win for both of us.
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