revitalizedhusband

Ok, has anyone heard of this before?

My wife and I have always had a good sex life, even in our "bad" times it was still once or twice a week.

In the last 9 months or so our sex life has realy taken off, not only in frequency but in variety as well.

We not have sex 5-7 times a week and have added things such as toys, sensual movies (not porn), other kinky stuff, etc.

In the last month or so, she started getting some sharp "needle" like pains when I had an orgasm inside her (only time). It was once in awhile at first, and lately became every time.

At first her gyno thought she just had an infection of some sort (yeast, urinary, etc) and gave her some antibiotics.

Even though neither of us had never cheated, they screaned her for STDs as well and she (obviously) was clean.

Without getting into the details, she will also have a yellowish discharge, throbbing pain, and swelling within 15 minutes of having sex.

Today her gyno diagnosed her with being allergic to my ejaculation. He even said "well, I can't have you get a new husband, so you will either have to use condoms for the rest of your life or be in steroids for the rest of your life". She doesn't want to do the steroids thing for 2 reasons, 1 they make you gain weight, and 2 they make it easier to get everyday infections (steroids hurt your immune system).

My question is...has anyone ever heard of this? Being allergic to cum....

And what about an allergy to such substance just showing up after 9+ years of marriage?

This kind of put a damper on my Friday because my wife and I have REALLY had an amazing sex life the last 9 months or so and now we might have to cut it back some and/or use condoms all the time for the rest of our lives.

I'm just really looking for information on this condition and/or advice. I love my wife so much that I have no problem cutting back our sex frequency and/or having to use condoms, etc so that she doesn't go through this.

Oh yeah, she has a latex allergy too, so can't use latex condoms...

Oh yeah, and the only other information, is we have been using "lube" more lately due to the frequency, and our brand of choice has been KY. Up until the last few months we had never needed or used lube at all. That's the only real "change" in our habits down there since this allergy started that I can think of.

MarkTwain

Yes, this does happen. You have probably over exposed her to your cum, which has triggered a reaction. when you were doing it less, it probably produced only mild symptoms that went largly un-noticed.

If she is sensitised at the moment, the lubrication on condoms might be an irritant to her. Perhaps you will have to practise semen retention. If only there was someone who knew about semen retention round here...

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revitalizedhusband

Gosh dang you MT, you'd find a way to get me to do that one way or another!

swedish

Did she tell her gyno that the KY was a recent change? I know they make several 'flavors' (and for MT 'flavours') and I wonder if there is fragrance or such in what you are using that is causing a reaction?

martino

Well what if he doesn't ejaculate in her? she would only have small amounts from non-protected intercourse, she can wash when they are done?

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MarkTwain

Yeah - even if I had to bribe your wife's gynaecologist

Pre-cum is weaker than ejaculate, so he might just get away with it.

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Amplexor

MT, I could see that "cumming" a mile away.

Sorry RVH, I've never heard of this before. Did anything else chance other than the frequency?

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revitalizedhusband

Frequency changed, plus due to the frequency we started using KY lube once in awhile (not every time) to help.

That was really the only thing that changed in the last couple months.

I've already thought of the "pulling out" method to avoid having to use a condom.

Her gyno even recommended that she take 2 advil before we have sex to dull the pain!

Boy, that really would make me feel good "hold on honey, I have to take some pain killers before we have sex"...I obviously don't want to hurt my wife...

One thing I have noticed, and this is just an observation not a "fact" but it seems to hurt "more" if she just got done having an orgasm herself.

Also, not to get too much into details, but there is no "allergic" reaction at all (at least not noticeable) when we have anal sex...just vaginal.

She will have a skin reaction though if she doesn't wipe it off right after sex.

MarkTwain

Taking a pain killer so you can do something your body is telling you not to do is not wise. Pain is a warning. Listen to it.

If you back off on the quantity for a while, she might regain some tolerance. She has become over-sensitised to your ejaculate. It would not be good to press on regardless, as the next stage could be more violent. I'm amazed the doctor gave such advice.

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827Aug

I can believe it. During my last pregnancy, I developed an allergy to my unborn child. It was a very rare thing. Luckily it occurred near the end of the pregnancy, so the doctor induced labor. it was funny having a dermatologist making rounds twice daily in the maternity ward.

Perhaps your wife could see an allergist for some suggestions. Steroids aren't a safe choice for long-term use.

revitalizedhusband

MT,

The gyno said use Advil on top of a condom, not use Advil and then still allow a reaction.

KMDillon

There are allergists that can build up her tolerance. Pretty much you two go in together, you produce the "specimen", and the doctor exposes her to it in controlled amounts that he'll increase over time. It's an unpleasant process (and expensive) but it's really the best answer I've found.

My F and I are going through this as well- really trying to get this figured out before the honeymoon! You should also first have the allergist look into what else your wife could be allergic to. My F and I have very different diets so we're still in that part of the process.

GAsoccerman

How about some Benedryll right before intercourse, that helps with allergic reactions.

I would try without the KY jelly she may be allergic t that not your cum.

Also you body goes through changes every 7 years, that is probably why she has developed a allergic reaction.

I bet she feels terrible.

I would try without the KY for a while and see if it changes.

Country Girl

Yep, it could knock her out. Benedryll causes drowsiness in most people. That's one way to resolve the problem---sleep through it. lol

Seriously though, the allergist is going to be your best bet. They will need to identify exactly which protein is causing the problem.

MsLady

Don't do the Benadryl - it'll make her sleepy.

This does happen, though it's rare. I'm sorry. It totally sucks.

Definitely have her go to a good allergist. They can help you identify specifically what she's reacting to and possibly build her resistance back up.

In the meantime, do not take this lightly. Allergies often do take years and much exposure to surface and get bad enough for the person to notice, but once they hit a certain threshold can become life threatening. So take the precautions necessary to keep her healthy while you sort this out with an allergist. Was the Gyno sure that it isn't the KY that caused the reaction? Regardless, go to the allergist - they can be much more specific on this matter.

BTW, as a head-up, this will be a problem when and if you choose to conceive. So if that's in the plans, educate yourselves with enough time to plan accordingly.