What is the appeal to..

karma*girl · 08-16-2012, 11:50 PM

...finishing on her face?

My husband used to mention it now & again, but I have my boundaries.. (ANYWHERE else is great, just not my face.)
It inherently seems degrading, even in a trusting, adventurous relationship. I told him I'd take it if he came on his own face first, lol..no he's not THAT flexible

Now even if I mention it, for example, I'll ask why he doesn't want it anymore- He says if I'm not into it, it won't turn him on..
hmm, hope that's true!

Some people do this & think it's no biggie, right?
Was it inspired from porn?
I bet porn enthusiasts would say it's the norm for them, or they think it's hot..which is of course totally fine- to each his own!

My husband & I were talking- I told him, I really don't think women long for this to happen to them, it's more for the 'show' of it.
I told him to look it up & watch videos of a variety of women getting their faces covered..
Notice their faces as the guys finish on them.
I don't know if any of them are actually enjoying the experience? (of course they're acting though..)

Are there women who actually DO enjoy this, or do you 'play the porn actress' part & just grin/bear it?
Guys, if you knew inside she was not enthused, (but she agreed to it to make you happy,) would it still be hot for you?
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missymrs80 · 08-16-2012, 11:54 PM

I enjoy it bc I love the look on his face....and I know he loves doing it. My H said he likes it bc I am accepting him or something like that...can't remember exactly watch he said though.

cent130130 · 08-16-2012, 11:59 PM

It does have a certain appeal, in a very submissive, porn-style sort of way. I would enjoy playing around with it occasionally, but only if my wife was interested and willing. I think there is something very arousing and affirming in the idea that my wife would want to do something that she's not necessarily in to, simply because she knew I would get pleasure from it. I think that requires a "people pleaser" type of personality, which is not my wife. If she's not in to it (which my wife would definitely not be) than it would not feel right to me.

missymrs80 · 08-17-2012, 12:01 AM

I don't see it's degrading in my marriage...I love him and if that excites him then I'm game. My husband can give me the...money shot? Lol.....and he can open my car door for me an hour later. If he were a jerk I would feel differently about it I'm sure....well, and I prob wouldn't have married him either!

karma*girl · 08-17-2012, 12:06 AM

^ Great points!!
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karma*girl · 08-17-2012, 12:10 AM

...the degrading part would definitely be amplified in an untrusting marriage.
Have u had it in your eye? It's the worst pain! Lol...it 'accidentally' shot that high once..
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EleGirl · 08-17-2012, 12:13 AM

I think that this is one of the porn inspired things that guy get into.

jaharthur · 08-17-2012, 12:16 AM

I have mixed feelings. The idea is somehow arousing, but I understand the feeling of many women that it is degrading. But certainly some women say the affirmatively enjoy it. My wife would not and no, I can't enjoy something if it's just being endured, especially given alternatives that she enjoys.

bluelaser · 08-17-2012, 12:18 AM

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Originally Posted by karma*girl

...finishing on her face?
Was it inspired from porn?

Yes in all likelihood. I think the turn on is this message from the wife - 'i'm so hot for you i'll take it wherever'

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Now even if I mention it, for example, I'll ask why he doesn't want it anymore- He says if I'm not into it, it won't turn him on..
hmm, hope that's true!

Not true. He's only saying that because he knows he won't get it anyways. But the real question here is why would you even ask him, after rejecting him?

It almost seems like a cruel taunt

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Guys, if you knew inside she was not enthused, (but she agreed to it to make you happy,) would it still be hot for you?

Yes as long as the wife pretends that she likes it.

missymrs80 · 08-17-2012, 12:27 AM

To the enthusiasm thing....I doubt my H is always enthusiastic when I'm upset about something and want to talk for an hour about my feelings in the middle of some game he was watching. But he does it.

karma*girl · 08-17-2012, 12:31 AM

Oh, I wasn't meaning to be taunting toward him, but was asking him further to see if he'd confirm what I thought..he didn't want it anymore if I wasn't into it or felt negative about it.
BUT, maybe he's not being totally honest?
I DID ask him if I decided I wanted to do it, how would he feel? He said he wouldn't want to because he knows I'd just be trying to appease him...
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karma*girl · 08-17-2012, 12:36 AM

I see what you're saying Missy~ sometimes we do for eachother things we don't necessarily want to do, for the sake of the relationship.
But for me, conversation & being ejaculated on are in different camps.
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Gaia · 08-17-2012, 01:15 AM

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Originally Posted by missymrs80

I enjoy it bc I love the look on his face....and I know he loves doing it. My H said he likes it bc I am accepting him or something like that...can't remember exactly watch he said though.

I just discussed this with my own spouse... and he says he sees it the same way as missy's husbans does... with the... "accepting all of him".
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CanadianGuy · 08-17-2012, 01:21 AM

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Originally Posted by karma*girl

I see what you're saying Missy~ sometimes we do for eachother things we don't necessarily want to do, for the sake of the relationship.
But for me, conversation & being ejaculated on are in different camps.
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Getting words in your eye doesn't hurt.

karma*girl · 08-17-2012, 01:26 AM

Hahahaha...so true

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