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My wifes bday is coming up and thought about getting her the 50 shades of gray book to see if it would maybe spice things up in the bedroom at least for her. A little history she is going on 27 and im 29 she has never really been into sex that I can tell, never initiates and comes off as reserved about sex. I have discussed issue regarding our sex life with little improvement. She has in the past tried to open up about sex, since I have encouraged it and asked her what she wants and likes, we ordered a few toys but im guessing they weren't quite what she thought it would be, I just dont want to get her something and her think of me being a perv and tring to get her to be something she's not. I have heard of women reading this book and finally opening up about what they want and like just thought I would give this a try. She was suppost to go to a passion party for the first time and at the last min backed out, I guess due to embarressment. So should I get this for her maybe some other ideas?
Good idea. I bought it for my wife and even though she tries to downplay it, I know that she's enjoying the book. She's about halfway through it and things have been a little better innthe bedroom. Not any miracles, mind you, but slight improvements, nonetheless.
If your wife is more of the cerebral type she might not like it. The writing is awful! Seriously. And I am 28 and the things the author has this girl saying in the book (I think she is like 21) are not at all the way young women talk. It's really awkward at times. Also the characters a flat and dull. The things in this book aren't even that new and exciting....I can't believe that THIS is the book women are freaking out about. If your wife is not at all adventurous in bed and not very open with her sexuality, this book may work for her. I guess it helps women know there is more than just missionary position sex out there.....and that it's ok.
If your wife is more of the cerebral type she might not like it. The writing is awful! Seriously. And I am 28 and the things the author has this girl saying in the book (I think she is like 21) are not at all the way young women talk. It's really awkward at times. Also the characters a flat and dull. The things in this book aren't even that new and exciting....I can't believe that THIS is the book women are freaking out about. If your wife is not at all adventurous in bed and not very open with her sexuality, this book may work for her. I guess it helps women know there is more than just missionary position sex out there.....and that it's ok.
yh I didn't get the hype either, but im more into porn than books so maybe thats why. It was a real struggle to read through for me.
I flipped through the copy I bought my wife and do agree that the writing is not at a level one would expect from a multi-published author. But that just prodded me to scan for the sex parts. I don't care if my wife does te same -as long as she gets to the good parts and reads them.
She is a very vanilla LD and I hope that this broadens her sexuality. She does not like porn at all so I went a different route.
I flipped through the copy I bought my wife and do agree that the writing is not at a level one would expect from a multi-published author. But that just prodded me to scan for the sex parts. I don't care if my wife does te same -as long as she gets to the good parts and reads them.
She is a very vanilla LD and I hope that this broadens her sexuality. She does not like porn at all so I went a different route.
Ya but women are all about the context. Men can just go straight to the sex. Women like the story around the sex as well. That's why there are so many romance novels for the female audience.
The book did NOTHING for my wife, who skeptically borrowed it from her mother. She said, "you know how different I am from many other women, and if I want to get turned on, I don't want to read, I will watch porn". That would be great, but not doing that either. Posted via Mobile Device
The book turned me off.it was painful to read such trash.I'd be offended if someone gave that book to me and expected it to get me turned on.I'd feel like my intelligence was being insulted bc that's how bad i think it is.
One thing that turned me on and I NEVER forgot it: i had a man who used to write erotic stories for me.The characters were different each time and he really did wonderful making a background tale and the details were catered to what the average female would like.I treasured those stories and knew i was his muse for each one.
Would your wife like to read fan fiction trendy crap or would she like to read something straight from the mind of her loving husband?
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50 Shades of Gray wifes bday coming up 
