questionme2

So it's been more than a month since my husband initiated. We have had weird/bad sexual history. He can't last and refuses to address it.

So this morning... I initiate. He laid there. Let me satisfy him and then got up and went to the bathroom. Is that common? Just laid there ... Enjoyed and left.
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that_girl

Not common. Very selfish and rude, imo.

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Maricha75

Uhhhh no. I agree with TG. Very selfish and rude.

Also, you mean he got off but you didn't?? Oh HELL NO!!! That wouldn't fly here. No way, no how!

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questionme2

Yep! It's how it ALWAYS is. We have talked about it but this seems to be a common theme. It makes me so bitter!


QUOTE=Maricha75;1000797]Uhhhh no. I agree with TG. Very selfish and rude.

Also, you mean he got off but you didn't?? Oh HELL NO!!! That wouldn't fly here. No way, no how![/QUOTE]
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Maricha75

qm2... wow...just... wow... Seriously, I'd be tempted to get him worked up, not let him cum, and say "Ok, my turn! You want to get off? Funny, so do I." As bad as it sounds, I'd leave it at that. My husband makes sure I do every single time. And, if I just know it's not gonna happen, I tell him. THEN I take care of him or just let him finish inside me...whichever he prefers. But, I haven't had to worry about that in years. The point is, he makes sure I get off too. And your husband needs to do that as well. He is being selfish, plain and simple.

FTR, I am not TELLING you to do what I said above lol. I am saying that's what I would be tempted to do!

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questionme2

In the past, he has blamed me and said it just seems like I don't want sex so he just helps me get it over with by giving him a hand job
. I have to say that is not true and I've told him that before. It is just hard because I am SO left hanging out to dry.


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40isthenew20

Part of my getting off is getting my wife off. This boy is dead wrong.

questionme2

I just have to accept that THIS is all I get in the sex dept. it really makes life suck for someone trying to deal with other marital problems.

So what would you do in this situation? I've talked til I'm blue in the face about it. And did it nicely!

QUOTE=40isthenew20;1000926]Part of my getting off is getting my wife off. This boy is dead wrong.[/QUOTE]
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larry.gray

As you should be! This is so foreign to me I can't be very helpful to give advice, sorry.

ladybird

I think your husband may be leading a double life, because your husband sounds exactly like mine.

Granted we have sex about once a week, however he is the only one who gets anything out of it. I am lucky to O during sex every 3 months (I have no issues with orgasm) The thing i have issues with is that he is so self centered when it comes to sex! Sorry if i am not able to after 30 seconds!

I know exactly how you feel. AND it sucks. I don't even remember what a normal sex life is anymore.

questionme2

I have never o with my husband. 11 years later. Never. He doesn't try though...I have no problems.... When I'm on my own.


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Kasler

This is a problem. You need sex counseling.


Also whats the relationship?

Despite what some people may think sex is a big deal concerning marriage.

Theres no way I'd marry a woman whose only letting me get close once every 3-4 months.

If he absolutely refuses to do more, and you're not ready for your sex life to end then you may need to make the big move.

MaritimeGuy

What about finishing yourself after he's done. Maybe lying next to you while you pull out the vibrator will clue him in...or even better maybe it will turn him on enough for round two.

I'mInLoveWithMyHubby

Not common at all. In the last 12 years my husband has mostly gone out of his way to make sure I'm having a great time. He never would just lay there, that's rude. Neither would I either.

questionme2

It's been like this basically forever... And I've just come to the conclusion that it's not worth the fight. I've made suggestions before.. Requests..etc. but they fall on deaf ears. He will either get embarrassed and turn passive aggressive. "sorry I'm not good enough for you" or he will be receptive... Change for a little while and then.. Back to mistaking care of him and that's it.

I just wanted to know if it was that atypical. And I think it is!


QUOTE=I'mInLoveWithMyHubby;1001261]Not common at all. In the last 12 years my husband has mostly gone out of his way to make sure I'm having a great time. He never would just lay there, that's rude. Neither would I either.[/QUOTE]
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