05-06-2009, 04:17 PM
Join Date: May 2009
| | Can a loveless, sexless marriage be fixed?
Hello there. I'm a newbie and after crying for several hours - I've decided to google for advice and found this lovely place.
I'm 29 (he 30) and mother of two kids - a 3 1/5 year old and an 8 month old. We started off in love and inseparable and had sex on a regular with no problems. We were good friends, chatted etc. and hubby often asked if I was happy and was open about his feelings - often telling me that he loved me.
Slowly, he changed. When our 3 year old was about 8 months, he moved to another room - complaining about her waking up in the middle of the night. When she was one, I suggested that she sleeps in her own room but he refused- and moved in her room instead. I felt hurt and told him as such but he just shrugged it off and carried on. We had sex on occasion. I thought given the circumstances that this was normal.
But things got worse to the point where we have not been intimate for over a year. The last time we've been intimate (on all levels) was when I conceived my baby - and then we were actively trying for a baby - so it was more for reproduction. I haven't got a hug from him for ages and can't remember the last time that we kissed. I just feel a a great distance between us which is turning into him seeming like he dislikes me. I tried talking to him initially, cried my eyes out to him - sent him an email because I reached a point where I can't even bring up the subject with him. I feel trapped. Please advice.. are there solutions.. anyone who was in this situation and saw an improvement? Can you survive in a loveless, sexless marriage? I'm I kidding myself?