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so here it goes.....yup I told you all I wanted sex all the time....that hasnt changed!!! He came home today from work and told me he was going to sleep in the extra bedroom...I said why? he said he needs some time alone....I said whatever!!!
Made dinner....kids ate...he ate...I went to our room....kids are playing xbox....so asked him to come talk to me....he came in I tell him what is going on he says nothing....I say are you having sex with someone else.....he says no....I say do you want to leave me he says no....I say then what....he says I want you to stop harping on me about sex .....I say fine....but you know eventually you are going to have to have sex with me and pay attention to me or I will leave....I will not be ignored for ever or live in a sexless marriage....I have needs....he says out of spite I know because he is pissed that I confronted him....no one will want your ugly fat ass.....so you better just stay where you are ..... I am like what did you just say....he almost got kicked straight in his balls.....but he will be sleeping in the guest room....for how long I dont know....thank goodness for toys & I have enough of them & am not afraid to use them
...He seriously said that to you? What the hell? I would have slapped my husband and told him to go sleep at his parents place if he ever said that to me. And he could only come back when he was ready to respect me as a freaking human being. Good for you for not putting up with it, either.
As to the sex situation...do you think his totally inappropriate and rude comment about your appearance could be a sign as to why he's not having sex with you? Is it possible he may not be as attracted to you as he was before, and doesn't know how to address it?
I've read some of your other threads, but not in detail.
So why are you still in the "marriage"? Seems to me, you're officially roommates now, and you can likely do better as far as roommates go.
And if you say you're there because of the kids, take a good long think about what kind of marriage you're teaching your kids is acceptable.
...He seriously said that to you? What the hell? I would have slapped my husband and told him to go sleep at his parents place if he ever said that to me. And he could only come back when he was ready to respect me as a freaking human being. Good for you for not putting up with it, either.
As to the sex situation...do you think his totally inappropriate and rude comment about your appearance could be a n hsign as to why he's not having sex with you? Is it possible he may not be as attracted to you as he was before, and doesn't know how to address it?
I've read some of your other threads, but not in detail.
ummmm welll that shouldnt be since ummmmm I was way bigger when he married me.....
So why are you still in the "marriage"? Seems to me, you're officially roommates now, and you can likely do better as far as roommates go.
And if you say you're there because of the kids, take a good long think about what kind of marriage you're teaching your kids is acceptable.
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not officially
roommates yet......but if it goes there than
yes I will go that route.....
I am not giving up yet....but changes will happen or that is it....
ummmm welll that shouldnt be since ummmmm I was way bigger when he married me.....
Okay, then it sounds as if this man has major issues, especially if you're healthier now than when you married.
I only asked because sometimes after marriage one or both spouses can let themselves go, and it can cause issues in the relationship. It did for my mom and dad. His comment stood out to be as maybe being a way of expressing why the sex had stopped. But it doesn't sound as if that is the case.
It sounds as if your husband isn't interested in actually being a husband. Has there always been this sexual issue between you? Has there ever been a time when there was great sex?
Edit to add: even if the sex were to improve, it seems as if there are a lot more issues than just sex. He sounds disrespectful on every level.
Okay, then it sounds as if this man has major issues, especially if you're healthier now than when you married.
I only asked because sometimes after marriage one or both spouses can let themselves go, and it can cause issues in the relationship. It did for my mom and dad. His comment stood out to be as maybe being a way of expressing why the sex had stopped. But it doesn't sound as if that is the case.
It sounds as if your husband isn't interested in actually being a husband. Has there always been this sexual issue between you? Has there ever been a time when there was great sex?
How recently? And can you think of anything that could have caused this sudden change? An illness? Financial issues? Other relationship issues? Busy schedules?
How recently? And can you think of anything that could have caused this sudden change? An illness? Financial issues? Other relationship issues? Busy schedules?
I take full responsibility I am revolting I guess had a hysterectomy IDK what ugly I guess is the truth
I take full responsibility I am revolting I guess had a hysterectomy IDK what ugly I guess is the truth
Firstly, stop with the negativity towards yourself. Just because your husband is a douche doesn't mean you're ugly. If your personality is anything like what it seems from your posts, you sounds like a really fun person to be around. You're not revolting. 90% of beauty comes from a woman's confidence and personality, imo. A woman can be a physical hottie, and have no attractive qualities whatsoever if she's insecure and filled with self-hatred.
You have so much spunk and healthy sexual attitudes! Your husband is missing out, but that is his fault.
Secondly, did the sex decline after the hysterectomy? How long after the surgery did you wait until you initiated sex again?
Firstly, stop with the negativity towards yourself. Just because your husband is a douche doesn't mean you're ugly. If your personality is anything like what it seems from your posts, you sounds like a really fun person to be around. You're not revolting. 90% of beauty comes from a woman's confidence and personality, imo. A woman can be a physical hottie, and have no attractive qualities whatsoever if she's insecure and filled with self-hatred.
You have so much spunk and healthy sexual attitudes! Your husband is missing out, but that is his fault.
Secondly, did the sex decline after the hysterectomy? How long after the surgery did you wait until you initiated sex again?
you know I thought he would of wanted me to....since i wasnt able to since jan all the way until aug.....i had surgery july... i was you know having a period everyday from jan until july
I am fun to be around.....I have a good time and am a good person....but I have spent the last 16 yrs with this man.....have moved accross the country for him and have nothing here except him......WTF
you know I thought he would of wanted me to....since i wasnt able to since jan all the way until aug.....i had surgery july... i was you know having a period everyday from jan until july
I am fun to be around.....I have a good time and am a good person....but I have spent the last 16 yrs with this man.....have moved accross the country for him and have nothing here except him......WTF
So, what was the sex like before the hysterectomy? Did he understand that you weren't rejecting him, but that physically you couldn't have sex with him during that time?
It sounds as if you are a truly loving and caring wife, and for whatever reason, he's chosen not to be a husband.
How are the other areas of your relationship? Do you spend quality time together? Do you go on dates? Or do you mostly live separate lives?
So, what was the sex like before the hysterectomy? Did he understand that you weren't rejecting him, but that physically you couldn't have sex with him during that time?
It sounds as if you are a truly loving and caring wife, and for whatever reason, he's chosen not to be a husband.
How are the other areas of your relationship? Do you spend quality time together? Do you go on dates? Or do you mostly live separate lives?
Yup we do everything else together , sex before was fine still not as much as i want but fine i was floored today i want to walk out but would not give up that easy
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SEX with husband halted for good.....he says 
