Re: Are all men this selfish?
For your husband, and a majority of men, love is equal to sex, I'm sorry to disappoint you, but its true. Most men (some women too) don't feel loved without sex.
The book suggested earlier "The Five Love Languages" would really help you out and see what your husband is thinking. He should read it too so he can figure out what your "love language" is.
However, all that being said, him bugging you about sex that soon after procedures that have to do with your vagina (cervical cancer, birth of your baby, etc) is moronic.