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What is the thing you want to tell your better half about your sex life?
Sometimes its hard for us to tell our husband or wife what we want or what we are thinking about our sex life or our sexual relationship.
I would love to tell my wife I want to give her a day in a cabin where we I am her boy toy or slave. I am very much the Dominate one in the marriage when it comes to sex. I do most of the reading about sex and bring toys into the picture, I am the kinky one that brings along the ropes and oils and lubs. I give the massages and light the candles.
I would love to be toy. Told what to do and how to do it. Told what I need to do to please her. Treat her like a Queen and do as I am told for the day or weekend. I guess I am having Submissive fantasys which is opposite of what I am in our relationship.
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I want my husband to TALK about sex with me, he clams up for some reason. I want him to be more open to trying new things but for the life of me I cannot figure out how to go about expressing this to him. I guess in a way I am embarrassed. Its so weird, I can talk about sex with anyone but him. I want to tell him what I want but I just worry he would think I was a freak lol.
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Originally Posted by CupidScrewedUp
I want my husband to TALK about sex with me, he clams up for some reason. I want him to be more open to trying new things but for the life of me I cannot figure out how to go about expressing this to him. I guess in a way I am embarrassed. Its so weird, I can talk about sex with anyone but him. I want to tell him what I want but I just worry he would think I was a freak lol.
Same here, but hubby is the same way neither of us can talk about it....I know I just have NEVER been able to...with ANYONE...we were both brought up in very "conservative" homes
There is so much I wish we could talk about...if he would, then I MIGHT be able to but even then I'm not sure...
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Originally Posted by CupidScrewedUp
I want my husband to TALK about sex with me, he clams up for some reason. I want him to be more open to trying new things but for the life of me I cannot figure out how to go about expressing this to him. I guess in a way I am embarrassed. Its so weird, I can talk about sex with anyone but him. I want to tell him what I want but I just worry he would think I was a freak lol.
I have a similar problem, but my husband is the one who gets embarrassed. I wish he'd open up! Allow himself to be completely lost in the moment. I have no problem telling him what I want, subtly and directly....to no avail, at times.
I'd really enjoy more oral (without having to ask)...he knows I like this, yet he rarely, if ever, goes down...
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This is one of the most awesome posts ever, just thought I'd copy it over here
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Originally Posted by I Notice The Details
I am a husband that is new to this site… and this thread caught my eye. I have been married to my wife for 15 years. Both of us struggled early on about talking about what we need regarding sex. We were both brought up in very religious families. I almost always found myself initiating sex, and thought of an idea to help my wife feel more comfortable in expressing her needs without saying a word:
Five years ago, I surprised her with three small boxes that were beautifully wrapped.
BOX 1 had a delicate pair of black, thong panties with a “swirl” pattern on them, and a note that basically said: Any time you wear these, you are entitled to a wonderful body massage from me ending with lots of kissing…”down there”. Wear them often, because I love your body and love to give you pleasure. I can’t wait to give you a “happy ending” whenever you wear these panties.
BOX 2 had a pair of satin, Victoria’s Secret “animal” print panties with a note that basically said: Anytime you wear these, you will be ravished from head to toe. Some “mauling” might be encountered! Don’t wear them unless you are ready to be “taken”.
BOX 3 had a pair of Red, HankyPanky thong panties with a note that basically said: Anytime you wear these red panties, I promise to allow you to watch me do that “private solo act” you are curious about. You can watch up close, peek from the slightly open bedroom door, or come in a join the fun.
Over the next 5 years, we have had lots of fun with each pair….many stories to tell. I was thrilled every time I saw my wife choosing to wear these special panties. I write this because I also used these 3 erotic gifts to plant the seeds for sex during the day with my wife. For example, I will sometimes call her up and tell her that I have been imagining her in her animal print panties and black high heels….asking if she has the need to be “taken” by her husband later that evening.
Other days, as I watch her dry off from taking her morning shower, I would lay her black swirl panties out on the bed for her to wear…saying “your thighs look so smooth and kissable right now”…she just smiles as she puts them on knowing what pleasure is in store for her later.
Occasionally, when I am very stressed with work, I will mention that I might need some “red” time in the bedroom. She obliges here as well, because she now understands my needs and wants me to be happy. She also finds a way to hide these red panties in my suitcase with a note every time I go away on trips.
Sorry for the long post, but simple things like this help us BOTH initiate and communicate in the bedroom!
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I had a girlfriend in college that would do the prostate thing.. I never asked for it she just did it. It was um... very effective. Almost made me jump out of my skin when she first went for it from surprise - but she persuaded me. She was talented in a creepy kind of way. Creepy as in wow... you have alot of experience with this, dont you...
I would never ask my wife for it since I know she would think it is totally gross... justifiably so. Frankly - if she isnt interested, neither am I. No worries. Typically I get a fair percentage of my jollies watching someone else having fun.. so if she is just 'playing along' I have no interest really.
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What is the thing you want to tell your better half about your sex life? 
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neither of us can talk about it....I know I just have NEVER been able to...with ANYONE...we were both brought up in very "conservative" homes
but even then I'm not sure...
