Sex in MarriageSexual problems are common in many relationships. This section is for discussions about sexuality. Please limit discussions to those asking for help with a problem and those offering advice. Any other threads may be deleted.
I have a collection of toys that I've used on myself. The xgf liked the idea of using them since I'd already used them.
When I got a strap on, she really enjoyed the feeling of power (and so did I!), of being "in charge". I'm not gay, but I enjoy the stimulation in that area.
One thing we liked was a double header, one end in her, the other in me. We'd get close to each other, lay my penis between her vulva lips and she'd use the Homedics massager on me/her. Killer orgasms!
We were both admitedly kinky. I miss that...sigh...
Okay, so, my sex life is pretty awesome, but I wanna spice it up a bit, but my husband refuses..i find it kinda kinky to use a dildo on ur husband/partner..i mean, its used on us women..why cant we use it on our husbands? My husband doesnt agree to it, says its just wrong.... am i wrong for thinkin its kinky? Is there somethin wrong with wanting to use a dildo on your husband/partner?
Wouldnt force the issue (oh er!) if I were you. Wouldnt be for me either. If hes not keen on it, hes not keen.
A friend of mines wife had a fetish about seeing him having sex with another man. Their both into swinging etc anyway.
Well, he wouldnt quite go that far but was willing to perform oral sex on a fella. Wife loved it and he was happy to' take one for the team' as he said.
I dont think I could handle watchin my hubby give another man head... there just aint no way... besides, he wouldnt go for that...if he sees 2 men kiss on tv he up chucks.. it was jus a thought, hes not into, im not gonna push it, i just enjoy teasen him about the whole issue.
If either partner shys away from a suggestion to try something new, I've found the best answer is to simply put that particular idea on the shelf and remember it's ok to change your mind later. Knee-jerk responses of "NO WAY" can later be followed up with, "By the way ...." - indicating they're reconsidering.
A little time to think things through can erase a stigma - and open a door to something incredible!