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Old 05-24-2009, 06:08 PM   #1 (permalink)
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Okay, so, my sex life is pretty awesome, but I wanna spice it up a bit, but my husband refuses..i find it kinda kinky to use a dildo on ur husband/partner..i mean, its used on us women..why cant we use it on our husbands? My husband doesnt agree to it, says its just wrong.... am i wrong for thinkin its kinky? Is there somethin wrong with wanting to use a dildo on your husband/partner?
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Old 05-24-2009, 07:32 PM   #2 (permalink)
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Nothing wrong with it unless they really do not want to do it. You can't force such things on a guy anymore than a guy can force sexual acts on their woman.
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Old 05-24-2009, 08:18 PM   #3 (permalink)
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There are several issues here. Many guys feel like doing what you describe leaves them open to having their sexual orientation questioned. There is also issue of it being a submissive act when some men can't deal with that. More generally, it's openning up new ground and many people are just insecure about new things (especially sexually). You might try using a vibe that is not made to look like the real thing and only use it on the outside (and all over). He might like it, feel less threatened and over time be willing to try more.
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I think it's a great idea
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Old 05-25-2009, 12:24 PM   #5 (permalink)
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I would probably feel ridiculous, but if my wife wanted to try that I would go along with as much enthusiasm as I could muster. That said, Abraham Lincoln will stop over for nachos before I field that request!
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Old 05-25-2009, 12:34 PM   #6 (permalink)
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i just think its kinky and wish i could get my husband to let me try it on him, but im not one to push someone to do something they dont wanna do, so imma leave it be...i dont understand why, but it turns me on in more ways then one... but thats just me, guess im weird that way.
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LOL the wife got a little wild this morning and before I knew it. Was on my hands and knees. She was playing. It was great tell him to give it a go he wont regret it I promise. LOL.
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Life is short and yuks are often hard to come by. This thread has inspired me to offer this opportunity to my wife just to see what would happen. I will let you know the reaction. I know what it will be mind you, but I can use the diversion...
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Ok so I hope I'm not crossing any bounds here...if so some moderator please delete my reply....


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Suggestion for women who want to use a "vibe" on their men...my husband is very "manly" doesn't even like his nipples messed w/because he says "ew, I'm not gay" but he loves this...sometimes when having sex we use a vibe on me for clitoral stimulation while he's penetrating me. I hold the vibe on my clitoris but the tip rubs his penis whilst going in and out he loves it...this is not overtly kinky nor scandelously dirty so if you're looking for somewhere to start give it a go If my "I'm so not gay don't touch my nipples" husband likes it yours might too hmmm damn I miss having sex with him Sigh
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Old 05-26-2009, 07:55 AM   #10 (permalink)
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i would not want anything used on me that looks like male anatomy, just not my gig. vibrators and such would be great but my wife is too conservative for that stuff.
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I really like to have them used on me. My wife says that I have very different orgasm sounds when she does use them on me. There are a lot of men that enjoy it, and it's not wrong, just really kinky.
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I wish I could get my husband to let me try it on him, but he refuses, Ive thought about gettin him pissy drunk and see if he would realize what happens.. i know..thats mean... LOL but thats just me.. hes a horny drunk lol and i love it!
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I'd be up for it as long as it bears no resemblance to a penis.

My wife has one vibrator we've "explored" on that was more fun for her than for me, but I'm always willing to do things just for her.
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I'd be up for it as long as it bears no resemblance to a penis.
I wouldn't care what it looked like

After all, it's not as if I have eyes in my... oh never mind
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Ok so I hope I'm not crossing any bounds here...if so some moderator please delete my reply....


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Suggestion for women who want to use a "vibe" on their men...my husband is very "manly" doesn't even like his nipples messed w/because he says "ew, I'm not gay" but he loves this...sometimes when having sex we use a vibe on me for clitoral stimulation while he's penetrating me. I hold the vibe on my clitoris but the tip rubs his penis whilst going in and out he loves it...this is not overtly kinky nor scandelously dirty so if you're looking for somewhere to start give it a go If my "I'm so not gay don't touch my nipples" husband likes it yours might too hmmm damn I miss having sex with him Sigh
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Again hopefully I didn't cross any boundaries here but this is the sex in marriage topic section so hopefully I'm safe

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i love my nipples being played with.. if she doesn't suck them, i'll tweak them a little myself LOL..

i did have an ex girlfriend slip me the vibe once while giving me head... LOST CONTROL.. i normally have quite a bit of stamina but once she slipped me the vibe i lost it instantly HAHA...

i think my wife is a bit too conservative to slip me one... ahh well.. such is life
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