submissive wife

trev · 05-25-2009, 10:57 AM

How do you get your normally very submissive wife to take the lead in the bedroom ?
she stays at home the house is always imaculate , the children well dressed polite .dinner is always cooked ready for when i come home ..she is always well dressed no matter what time of day it is .. id love nothing more then for her to drag me to bed question is how ..?

amberlynn · 05-25-2009, 12:36 PM

wow, ive never heard of a woman that didnt wanna take control, i love being in control in the bedroom...i dont have to drag my husband off tho, most of the time we dont even make it to the bed.. lol wish i could help. the coupon thing sounds like a good idea, i might try that myself just to spice things up.

Blanca · 05-25-2009, 02:42 PM

Ive heard of a book called The good girls guide to bad sex or something to that affect. maybe you two could look into something like that.

trev · 05-25-2009, 03:09 PM

i dont think it that she doesnt want to take control im sure her catholic up bringing has loads to do with it
like the coupon idea though

Happyquest · 05-26-2009, 05:32 AM

Thats a very cool I idea. We have done something like it but I like that both make them up,

okeydokie · 05-26-2009, 07:51 AM

some good ideas, but what is her underlying issue? do you just chalk this up to the fact that this is who she is? does she not understand that with all else being good, sex should be give and take? not trying to start a poop storm here, just curious.

humpty dumpty · 05-26-2009, 07:57 AM

good call okeydokie not quite sure what else some people need

MarkTwain · 05-26-2009, 08:26 AM

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Originally Posted by humpty dumpty

good call okeydokie not quite sure what else some people need

I used to get bothered by my wife not initiating very much despite not rejecting me very often. When one person does all the initiating, the other can end up feeling they are not being desired. In the end we had a series of talks about it and she likened sex to a wonderful green pasture. (I'm not sure that she was likening herself to a cow...). She said she could see the green field, she wanted to go into it, but couldn't quite get past the fence. She said that when I initiated, it was like I carried her over the stile.

She has gotten a bit better at initiating, but she is also much more enthusiastic when I make a move, which at least gives me positive feedback.