Help! I'm going crazy. Not enough sex.
I know that this may seem like nothing, as some people I've seen on here only have sex a few times a year (I feel for you guys/gals, you are truly a loving spouse), but I am going absolutely insane.
My wife and I just got married on in January, and the more time that goes by, the less often we have sex. It started off perfect for both of us, but now it is about once every 2 weeks or less. And masturbation doesn't help.
We don't even sleep in a bed together. We basically live in the living room with the tv and laptops. I hate to be mean, but it is getting ridiculous. She doesn't really do anything anymore. We are both trying to find jobs, so she just sits on the couch watching tv and surfing the web all day, literally, everyday. 70% of the time she doesn't leave the house even once.
I do everything for her. I cook and clean for her. I run errands for her, but I have to nag her to get her to go with me to pick up her cigarettes at least once every few days.
I feel like I am being used. I can't remember a time when she made me a meal or went somewhere for me. I feel so bad saying these things. I really really do love her sooooo much and I know she loves me, which is why I always do everything for her(sometimes after I get guilted into it a little). I get so frustrated when she won't just do something herself. But if I start saying "I don't feeling like going anywhere" she just starts going "Oh.. ok, don't worry about it."
Gah, I feel like a jerk complaining. But whenever I bring up sex she says she is tired, or not in the mood or gets mad at me. I don't want guilt sex, that would not help anything. I want to be needed. Sex is not just a pleasure, it is a real emotional need for me. I am going insane. My stomach feels sick all day with anxiety, I am on the verge of bursting into tears and punching a hole in the wall. I just have a real need to be touched and held(she knows that, we talked about it in pre-marital counseling, and at least used to have the same need herself), even when we are not having sex, but we don't ever kiss or hug unless I am going to bed or I beg her for a hug. She just doesn't want to get up or stop what she is doing.
She keeps promising to have sex with me but never follows through, and when we do eventually have sex I have to aggressively initiate it. I know she really enjoys sex when she is finally in the mood. I just don't know what is wrong with me.
Thank you so much for you help.